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Dangerous mindDangerous when one abuses religion to convince another's trust...... when he's so afraid to tell the whole naked truth about himself!!! If it's not guilt, what is it???
i'm sorry...i'm not supposed to love u
i'm not supposed to care
i'm not supposed to live my life wishing u were here
i'm not supposed to wonder where u are & what u do
i'm sorry i can't help myself cause i'm in love with u Too good to be trueSomeone said this to me not long ago: "if a person has the heart to perform a specific task, he only has a reason ~ SINCERITY. If not, he'll have a thousand reasons to decline"..... Roses are red, violets are blue;
My rose is white, and is bleeding for you...
I'm REAL but how sincere are u??? Mourning
TOLERANCEWe have the power to tolerate anyone and any situation. But tolerance is not just suffering in silence. It means going beyond any personal discomfort you may feel, and giving a gift to whom ever we would tolerate. Give our time, attention, understanding, compassion, care - all are gifts, which paradoxically, we also receive in the process of giving. And, as we do, we will experience our own self esteem and inner strength grow. In this way we can turn tolerance into strength.
Instead of trying to change the situation, we need to recognize and transform the weakness that is in us that is causing us trouble in the situation. Once we use this art we will find ourselves enjoying each situation that we are faced with. Good teachers...He who governs well, leads the blind;
but he who teaches well, gives them eyes... Single ParentingLook at the positive sides of raising our children according to our own beliefs & traditions without conflicting input from a spouse aka "an ex". Single parents often form closer bonds with their children & may end up being more nurturing & more involved with our children's social activities. Goodness does not just count towards the single parents. The children of single-parent homes may become much more independent & mature because they have to deal with more responsibility with the family unit.
Regardless of the upsides that exist, the truth is that being a single parent is an overwhelming experience & one that can drain our energy. Below are a few suggestions that may help meet our emotional needs while working hard to provide our children with the care & guidance that they need:
1. Take advantage of the enormous amount of resources available to single parents that can help us find in caring for our children.
2. Eat healthy, exercise regularly, both for our & our family's sake. Take great care of ourselves.
3. Stop feeling guilty. There are many families out there in the same situation as we are. Feeling down about it just invites more negativity.
4. Do not be afraid to set firm rules with our children & enforce them. Sometimes as a single parent, it is easy to be more lenient or have less strict rules.
5. Do not look for problems where none exist. Feeling guilty will get us nowhere & does not mean that there must always be something wrong within our small family units.
6. Strive to find time each & every day to be with our children. Play with them, talk to them, walk the dog together, read a book together or say prayers together. There is no better way to spend.
Single ParentsWhy and how one becomes a single parent is not the issue, but the dignity and the lifelong commitment to raise children single-handedly is the main concern.
Most single parents suffer much anxiety, rejection, prejudice, guilt and shame. Such negative experiences can easily lead to complete self-isolation, or total dependence. Both are extremes and are destructive, especially in sabotaging vital relationships and driving others away with one's desperation.
A healthy relationship is crucial for our self-esteem, especially spiritual reliance. Self-esteem and dignity are all the more vital, because we are all our children have and they are entirely dependent on us. Our well being is top priority, and it includes our spiritual, economic, social, mental and physical health. St Teresa of Avila said, "Be friendly to your body so that the soul enjoys living in it."
Jam 1:27 ~ "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress."
Gen 21:14-20 ~ "When God heard the boy crying, God not only provided for them, but made Ishmael the Father of a great nation."
Jer 29:11 ~ "For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you."
Rom 8:31-39 ~ "Who can separate us from the love of Christ?"
Jer 1:8 ~ "Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you."
THE SCIENCE OF SHOPPINGShopping is a euphoric experience ~ a high, much like drugs, alcohol or sex will produce. Endorphins are released in the brain & the person feels better temporarily. Then it wears off & he/she must shop again to get another fix. Overspenders can come from any socio-economic background, but they have one thing in common. They are all characterised by low self-esteem, often combined with perfectionism. Desperate to feel okay about themselves. Attempting to fill a deep emotional void inside ~ many call it 'the hole in my soul'. An aching emptiness drives them on relentlessly to try to fill it up. Still, many never realise ~ much less admit ~ they have a problem.
ANGER & RESENTMENTPick up your broom, mop, duster, sponge, scrub, toilet brush......... etc. the next time you're angry. Start cleaning your house, kitchen, toilet or even car, as if you are ripping up your resentment & cleanse it away!! This activity provides a focus for our anger. It allows us to spend the negative energies & helps us to dissect our anger by looking at the hidden resentments that fuel our anger. Let's confront, express & understand our anger in a safe & productive manner. At the end of the day, we get the benefits of a clean environment & physical workout! ~ HAPPY CLEANING!! THE STRENGTH OF A MAN...It isn't in how many women he's loved but it's in whether he can be true to the ONE woman he's trying to love.
It isn't seen in the width of his shoulders but it's seen in the width of his arms that encircle and protect you.
It isn't in the deep tone of his voice but it is in the gentle words he whispers. It isn't in the words he speaks but it's in how he keeps his word.
It isn't in how hard he hits but it's in how tender he touches. It isn't in the weight he can lift but it's in the burdens he can carry.
It isn't in the hair on his chest but it's in his heart that lies within his chest. It isn't in how he makes love but it's in the understanding that there is more way to making love, than just making love for fun himself.
"Sex is dirty only when it's done right." (Woody Allen quote printed on Vintage Erotic Art, Picture of Nude Woman)
MEN, MEN, MENIt's a mixed feeling when someone a couple of years younger than I am called me "Aunty"... especially from the opposite sex. What do young chaps see in women our age today? Maturity? Intelligence? Financial stability? Sense of humor? Luscious experiences? Motherly status???? I laughed to myself. On the contrary, I have been LABELLED as "a young woman with bad experiences striving to be back on track but still lack of insight....." from older men. I'm still laughing to myself. Men!?! Can't live with them or can't live without??
IT'S HOW WE RESPOND...
Everyone possesses a powerful, innate, psychological drive to love and to be loved. This drive alone motivates us to do all kinds of silly and irrational things in order to attract, connect and bond with someone to share our lives with. One thing that has always served us well is our ability to look reality right smack in our eyes! Life is always throwing out surprises that test our patience and try our nerves. Take a moment to think about how your are going to address some unhappy or unfortunate situation today. When all is said and done, it’s not what happens to us that charts our course and shapes our character…it’s how we RESPOND that does! Nobody escapes the harsh realities of this life, but some do deal with it better than others. Are you one of those people who allow life or other people to dictate your mood and set your emotional temperature? The only thing worse than suffering through the anguish is not having learned anything from it. LET GO & RETRIEVE FREEDOMIt has almost been four years yet I am feeling like a newborn at the edge of forty year-old. Have we not punished ourselves enough?? What if I have another forty more years to breathe or merely four days?? I would definitely not choose to live remorsefully.... Time heals, believe it & it will. Thanks to my mentors who have shared with me how they had survived their traumatised experiences. Letting go of the grudges has rewarded me the FREEDOM I have been yearning for all these years. At least take the chances, trials & errors, you will be amazed at the harvest. TRAPPEDI had a dream. Walked into a room full of fantasies!! There, a Knight stood tall with a sword in his right hand & a book in his left. He spoke words of wisdom, so charming yet so elusive. He has spiked me so wisely amongst other preys. The more he speaks, the more I feel trapped & suffocated. It was me, I know. I'm too weak in the curse of his mighty words. I felt I had been stripped. So ashamed with my ignorant nudity. CHAUVINISMBeing submissive is just a salute for someone respectable. If one abuses the honor, it's like many still believe sex is an appetiser to men, but unaware that MANY women today have treated it as desserts. Isn't it a matter of fidelity? Life's ups & downs could change a person overnight, it's only wise not to fall for such chauvinism.
Appreciate those who sit next to you silently listening to your breathing. They may not agree to every word you are uttering but simply making you feel good about yourself by being there. GULLIBILITY
NOW I’M TALKING
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