第一條：努力賺錢，自己花。 台幣越來越薄，男人越來越不可靠，如果自己有錢，一切都可以好過點。我最近勤於逛新屋、看豪宅，希望有一天能在自己的浴缸裡看山，廚房裡有菲佣燉著雞湯，透明玻璃餐桌上有一盆草莓和一壺expresso，洗完澡後穿上Tsumorichisato的睡袍，看看報紙雜誌，再換上miumiu套裝前進麗晶挑挑新貨。或者是，到畫廊搜搜常玉的畫，再以十倍價差來脫手，找幾個朋友寫寫歌、談談音樂，在我臥房的露台下當然，除了賺錢自己享受外，妖精們切記一件重要的事項：「別讓男人花你的錢。」陶子身邊的智障麻瓜們，常常唉聲氣地訴說在街上巧遇舊情人的苦處，不但怨恨他那麼快又有了新女伴，更氣不過的是：「陶子，他欠我的六萬塊還沒還耶！」這位麻瓜月薪不過三萬元，當初不但供吃住給他的男人，還標會讓他買電玩、衣服最後，人還是跑了。女人，努力賺錢，自己花。

第二條：努力戀愛，努力青春。
怕皮鬆肉垂？妳沒做臉做spa嗎？怕年齡大？你沒聽過姐弟戀嗎？能剋服這二項障礙，妳就成功地向妖精界邁進了一大步了。妖精之所以成妖，就是讓平庸的人類無法從外表判斷其年齡；妳一定看過皮膚乾澀、滿臉痘子的「年輕」女孩，也一定看過白晰光滑、吹彈可破的玉肌「妖精」女子，可見要歲月在妳身上留下痕跡或是智慧，仍然可以自由選擇。青春之後，戀愛機會自然大壞；而戀愛的滋潤，更是青春不老的強力春藥；所以，麻瓜們，請努力栽培自己、培養戰鬥力，如果還不清楚，請在家中掛起林志玲、劉嘉玲、關芝琳和辛曉琪的照片，一日三拜。

第三條：努力清醒，除舊佈新。
不管在事業、家庭或愛情，最忌諱的便是優柔寡斷、夜長夢多；不但問題懸而未決，還成一個阻擋妳前進的大包袱。所以，在開年之時，請給妳自己一個沒人打擾的時間，平心靜氣地思考，那些事該做個整理，甚至了斷，別讓鎖事阻礙了妳前進的動力。這個工作沒有前景，不是你的興趣，不如早早歸去；這個男人曾經傷害妳，食之無味，那就趕快丟棄---沒有什麼男人是會棄之可惜的---只有妳放棄了自己對感情的堅持，那才遺憾。最後，陶子提醒麻瓜們注意的事項是，努力清醒的真諦。妖精能不害人，才是最高境界。努力清醒，不管對方多帥，性能力多強，是別人的老公就不行；例子我就不用再舉，切忌切記，我希望看見許多美麗的妖精。

第四條：捨得自己過生活。
每到晚上七點十分，便得提著垃圾到巷子口等垃圾車來。久而久之，就認識了住附近的一位老婆婆，她年逾古稀，依然目光如炬，健步如飛。老婆婆總是向我抱怨她的媳婦，她常說：「我媳婦老愛把帶孫子的責任丟給我，以為這樣我才不會癡呆。
她怎麼了解，我每天一大清早要到公園裡和二十幾年的姊妹淘唱卡拉OK，然後星期一、三、五要上銀髮族英語會話正音班，二、四早上要上電腦。下午要去我們的長青聯誼社開讀書會，最近我們在讀一些日本漫畫，什麼流星、什麼壽司的，可好玩了！有時候，還得和三五好友喝喝下午茶、看看展覽，趁非假日嘛！老人票很便宜的！晚上我得看八點檔連續劇，然後再看九點檔的鄉土綜藝節目，什麼什麼夜總會的。週末我就更忙了！爬山、泡茶、去公園餵魚、餵流浪狗去寺廟拜拜打禪吃素！
喔，最近我還買了最新款的自動調焦單眼相機，想玩玩攝影呢！」我問老婆婆：「那妳那些可愛的小孫子呢？」老婆婆說：「我已經照顧完我的小孩了，陪孩子長大的機會可只有一次，這機會該屬於孩子的父母，要我偶爾帶帶，兼職可以，全職？我可忙的呢！」我問：「妳捨得？」老婆婆說：「我捨得將我的青春都給了我的孩子，現在，我得捨得走出門，捨得活自己，捨得去發現，原來時代是這樣進步的！」在老婆婆總是快捷俐落的身影裡，原來有顆不老的心！她總說，她得快一點，再快一點！日子每天少一天，不多了。女人真的要多愛自己一點....

I dare to say I believe in God (without second thought) because we are all unique tools to serve God in different ways. If everyone looks alike (do I have to wear like a nun??), thinks alike, speaks alike, behaves alike, has same interests, what would this world become like???

Who are we to judge others on their appearances, the languages they speak, the food they eat, the arts they love, etc.?? We can’t save the world by changing others to be like ourselves. Your ways may not be the best. Why can’t I try different approaches?? He rewards us differently as well. You may be blessed with rounds of world tours, and I’m blessed with a beautiful child. At the end of the day, He loves us all the same.

God bless, my name is Tjong Khim Long/ Tjuk Lin Tse -- alias Yusuf.? Tjuk Lin Tse is the name I use in my profession. I was born in North Kalimantan but have settled down in Jakarta for 21 years as a Chinese physician. I am also a member of the Indonesian Chinese Physicians' Association. Besides being a Chinese physician, I am also a fortune teller, I started my practice at a fee of Rp. 500 for each patient. The latest fee before my repentance in 1988 was Rp. 150,000 per patient for half an hour's consultation. I had so many patients that they have to wait for their turn for 2 to 3 months, and sometimes even up to 4 months to have their fortune told.

1. Method of Fortune

After a patient has registered and the turn came for his fortune to be told, he will come into the room. The moment he walked in, I knew the problem he faced that caused him to look for me - whether it was about work, family or others. I also knew what sickness he was suffering from and if he needed medical surgery and how many times he had undergone surgery. What's more, I knew everything about his children, whether they are widows or widowers, etc. That was not my power.. I learned the method of fortune telling from the knowledge descended from my ancestors. I did not learn it from books. Since I was young I was trained by praying, fasting and reciting charms.

When a patient approaches me to have his fortune told, it was the spirit that is in him that told the spirit that was with me. Even my student who has not passed could be accompanied by a spirit that would tell him everything. Because it was the spirit in the patient that told the spirit that was with me, which enabled me to read my patient's mind, that was why I was confident that I could tell fortunes accurately. So then how did a person from such a background as me believe in Jesus when I totally could not believe in Jesus?

At that time, Jesus, to me, was not of the same race as me, so how could He bring me to heaven? It was even impossible for me to dream about it. To me, the Bible was written by men, it is not something that dropped down from the sky. But now I believe in Jesus, maybe more than some Christians do. I did not become a Christian through a Christian.? Even if there was someone who handed me 100 million Rupiah to become a Christian, I would not want to be a Christian, I would reject that offer. I became a believer through a long process from God Himself.

2. How did I believe in Jesus?

1st February 1988 was the when I started to believe in Jesus. Every human being possesses love and it was through love that I got to know Jesus. The love that I am relating is the love between husband and wife. On 23 March 1987 my wife passed away due to an illness that caused her to lose her appetite for food. Although I was a physician, I had never given her any prescriptions.

Instead I brought her to other famous physicians for prescriptions. There was a room in my house which was like a temple. For 21 years, the idols that I worshipped could move and during the course of my wife's illness, I worshipped those idols. But there were no results. All my other efforts to cure my wife did not have any results too.? At last my wife was sent to the hospital, but the doctor could not figure out what my wife was suffering from? The general check-up showed that my wife was healthy, there was no illness.? At that time my wife could only eat 2 spoonfuls of food. She would throw up if given another spoonful. After facing a dead end, my wife told me that she decided to

receive Jesus Christ and believe in Him. Although I did not believe in Jesus at all, I permitted my wife to go ahead because of my love for her. When my wife believed in Jesus, she was prayed upon by my son and daughter who at that time already were believers of Jesus.

After being prayed upon, my wife slept soundly that night. When she woke up the next day, she looked so radiant and since then she could sleep peacefully every night. What happened in return made me unable to sleep. How did that happen?

Imagine, my wife had believed in Jesus, but my house was still full of idols. According to my prediction, my wife would return home from the hospital in 8 to 10 days and the situation at home would undoubtedly be a problem for her. As Christ's believer my wife would say "Halleluiah and Praise God", while I still had to say words of my idol worship.

This difference would undoubtedly result in an uncomfortable atmosphere.

3. Idols in my house destroyed

Immediately I gathered my students for a meeting, but they could not come up with a suggestion for a way out. Due to the love for my wife, I destroyed every kind of idols in my house, including the one from Ming Dynasty that could move.

The doctor found out that my wife was suffering from cancer of the intestines 6 hours before the passing away of my wife. We thought that it was only hemorrhoids. When my wife passed away, I was still an unbeliever. Since my wife already received Christ, her funeral service was carried out in a Christian manner.

There was a service in my house every night and I had to pray after them in the name of Jesus. I also heard about Jesus and how He gives life and heaven to those who believes in Him. I wanted to know where my wife was; in heaven or in hell. According to the Christians and pastors, my wife is in Heaven, but how could they proof that to me? No one has ever been to heaven and returned to tell me that my wife is in heaven.

4. Attending the church seminar in South Korea

In August 1987, there was a church seminar for Asians. My family of 7 registered for the seminar. I attended the events but not the services. Many churches in Asia sent their representatives there. I went there just to learn about Jesus.

I have 4 children, 1 son and 3 daughters. My eldest daughter was totally deaf. She could not hear at all, not even the sound of burning firecrackers. I brought her along to Korea anyway. We went to the Mount of Prayer, where people go there in throngs. At that time, a total of 163 Indonesian went there, including my family. There were caves in which we could I pray. I was interested to know about those caves. I queued up but my turn never came. I met a church elder from Taiwan. I saw him pray in the name of Jesus for healing without any charms or medicines. There was a person whose arms were not of the same length, after being prayed for in the name of Jesus, his shorter arm grew outward and became the same length with the other!

I was also an ex-acrobat and magician, but what I saw was not magic. Then I asked that church elder to heal my eldest daughter. He told me that he has no power to heal, but he only relies on the power of Jesus. I was given the opportunity to witness God's power. The church elder placed his two fingers in my eldest daughter's ears and prayed.

He said that in the name of Jesus this child must be able to hear and say 'Amen'. After he finished praying, he snapped his fingers behind my eldest daughter, she could now hear.

That incident really touched my heart because for 31 years my eldest daughter could not hear a single sound. Now she could hear just through a prayer. That church elder taught my daughter to say "Halleluiah" and she was able to follow after him although not fully accurate. At that moment I felt like country fellow who for the first time came to the city. I felt the magnificence of God.

5. I began to feel the awesome power of God

On the way back to Indonesia, we stopped by Taiwan and Hong Kong.  Usually each time I was in Singapore or Taiwan, I did not have the chance to go anywhere since many people would come to me to have their fortune told. But no one knew about my stop over in Taiwan then, so I had the chance to go to a place of recreation called Wu Lay.

When I came back from Wu Lay, my foot began to swell to a size bigger than my shoes could fit. But due to my scheduled flight, I had to fly to Hong Kong with my foot which condition was getting even worse. I thought that if it worsened even more, I would have to carry my shoes to Indonesia . So I asked my daughters to pray for me. After they prayed in the name of Jesus, I did not see any results. They prayed a second time, still there was no change. So I left it at that and went to sleep.? The next day when I woke up, my foot was healed! Filled with joy, I went back to Indonesia with my shoes on. At that time, I still did not want to believe in God, and I continued my profession as a fortune teller. At that time, I was also suffering from diabetes and chronic high blood pressure.. In that situation, I wanted to know how great God's power is. I did not take any medicines, instead I asked my children to pray for me. After being prayed for, I went to the doctor for a check-up. The doctor asked me where I went to seek medical attention for the past month. He was amazed at the result of my check-up. I told him I did not seek any medical attention at all. He did not believe that without any medication my illness could be healed. My diabetes and chronic high blood pressure were back to normal. Back then it was difficult for my blood pressure to reach 150, but now it reaches between 135 - 85. What had happened assured me that there is great power behind prayers. I had to confess the splendor of God, but I was still unable to bring myself to fully accept Him. The problem laid with my profession as a fortune teller which enabled me to earn a lot of money easily. At that time I could earn about 500 to 600 thousand Rupiahs per day without any capital. If I were to accept Christ, I would have to leave my profession and I would not have any earnings. I was at a pinch, such that I chose to remain a fortune teller.

One thing that was very unusual, there were also many Christians who wanted their fortunes told. I got to know that because I bought 100 Bibles from Korea and I gave one to each of my patients. Some of them said that they already have a Bible, which could mean they are Christians and they believe in Jesus. When I asked them if Jesus still helped them, they said that Jesus used to help, but not anymore. I advised them that there must be something wrong and I suggested that they seek God earnestly. I told them that God is willing to help even someone who did not believe in Him, He helped me! At that time my fortune-telling became more popular, and many Christians was curious because there was a fortune teller who gave out Bibles. They said that in this world, the only fortune teller who would give out bibles is me!

6. My repentance

To end my testimony, on 1st February 1988 at 1 o'clock past midnight, I repented with all my heart. That day I went to look at 2 projects for Feng Shui. The last one was at Pondok Indah, a very broad land with many buildings. It was raining cats and dogs when I reached there, such that it was hard for me to get out from my car. I brought with me my compass but the compass needle would not point accurately from inside the car. So I had to go out from my car with an umbrella to look at the place. When I reached home, it was already close to 8 o'clock at night. I went to bed right after dinner because I wasn't feeling well. At midnight I was awaken with breathing difficulties. As a physician I knew that was a heart problem. The air that I exhaled seemed more than the air that I inhaled. I couldn't stand it anymore, and I knew that in 5 to 10 minutes, I would die. At that moment, I remembered the power of prayer, and I knelt down on my bed, praying to God that He would bring me through that critical moment so that I could see tomorrow.  After "Amen", there was no result, and my breathing grew more difficult. Again I knelt down and prayed to God. After a second "Amen", there was still no result.. I felt so uneasy and according to my prediction, I still had 2 minutes left. That short time would determine whether I would still live or die. In that situation, it was already impossible for me to return to worshipping idols because I have destroyed all of them, such that the only way then was to pray for healing. I promised that if I was healed, I wanted to believe in Jesus, obey Him, be His witness, serve Him and leave my old profession.

At that very moment, I believed that Jesus was right there in front of me. As usual I ended my prayer with "Amen", but amazingly, just as I was saying "A", before I could even say "Men", I was already breathing normally and fully healed. My body felt so fresh. It was as though I was young again, and I felt deep joy that I have never felt before for the whole of my 61 years I have lived in this world!

It was at that moment that I put my trust in Jesus. I am a man who holds on to my promises, and that was also why I fulfilled my promise that I made to Jesus.

On the 1st of April 1988, I announced that I no longer practice fortune-telling and Feng Shui although there were still many people who wanted to have their fortune told, including people form Singapore, Taiwan and Malaysia. God loves men, but it's a pity not many men wants to love Him. I felt very indebted to God who loves me so much and my desire is to repay His love.

I call out to you to get to know Jesus, believe in Him and receive him whole-heartedly. Trust in Him 100%, not 99%, and you will be saved, healed and restored in this world and also in heaven.

May this testimony of mine increase the faith of all believers and to tell the pre-believers that Jesus is not an idol which we can make, pick and choose but He is the God for men to put their trust in and to worship.

John 3:16 : For God so loved the world, that he gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life".

John 14:6 : Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

Hebrews 2: 3-4 : How shall we escape, if we neglect so great salvation; which at the first began to be spoken by the Lord, and was confirmed unto us by them that heard him; God also bearing them witness, both with signs and wonders, and with diverse miracles, and gifts of the Holy Ghost, according to his own will?

Hebrews 4:7b : "To day if ye will hear his voice, harden not your hearts.."

Acts 4:12 : Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.

John 1:12 : But as many as received him, to them gave the power to become the sons of? God, even to them that believe on his name.

We can do no great things, only small things with the great love of God.

Belief #1: SHE’LL NEVER BE SATISFIED.

Truth: Women are always looking for ways to make things better. Don’t take her suggestions as complaints or criticisms, but as her desire to make the relationship or situation the best that it can be.

Belief #2: A STRONG, CONFIDENT WOMAN DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER.

Truth: Everyone loves to be taken care of and to feel needed. Even if a woman can fix things around the house or change the oil in her car, she will still ask for your help so she can feel your strength, support and protection. Don’t ever stop asking, “What can I do for you?” because it shows her that you care.

Belief #3: WOMEN ONLY WANT TO CONTROL MEN.

Truth: It’s not about control; it’s about love. When a woman sees a man hurting, struggling or overwhelmed, her goal is to help, not control.
Let her give you a helping hand.

Belief #4: KEEPING A WOMAN REQUIRES A LOT OF HARD WORK, TIME AND MONEY.

Truth: A serious relationship requires time and effort to cultivate it. You shouldn’t look at it as a burden. Your wife or girlfriend will reciprocate the effort you put into it.

Belief #5: YOU CAN’T LIE TO WOMEN.

Truth: Women are extremely capable of picking up moods and attitudes and can easily read body language and facial expressions. Although you may think that you have gotten away with a great lie, she is either letting it slide because she wants to keep the peace, or she is lying to herself because she’s afraid of the truth.

Belief #6: JEALOUSY AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE A PART OF BEING A WOMAN.

Truth: Women are protective of what belongs to them. They protect the things they value, especially when it comes to relationships. It’s not that she doesn’t trust you; she is guarding the relationship. You are too precious to her for her to allow anything bad to happen.

Belief #7: WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL.

Truth: Women don’t hide their feelings. They articulate what’s going on in their minds. There’s nothing wrong with emotions—we all have them. Being in touch with their emotions causes women to be sensitive and caring, and that’s why men love them.

An email from a friend:

我有個朋友A，月入只有$30,000，可是他過的生活是五星級的生活。
他不在乎每個月多繳一堆利息給銀行作為循環利息，也要「分期付款」把他喜歡的名牌和食物到手。
每個月到月底他就苦哈哈，這個時候，身上沒有任何現金的他，花不起一點錢吃路邊攤，可是可以用信用卡到餐廳消費吃更高級的料理。
我們常常笑他是「貧窮貴公子」。
不久之後他買汽車了，在各方親友的勸阻之下，仍然沒有辦法阻止他以$100,000的頭起款買下標緻206。
買車的第一個月是很快樂的，他開著他的跑車到處去飆，日子過得好不快活。一直到有一天晚上，我打電話給他，發現他竟然睡在汽車裡面。
「發生什麼事情了？」我緊張兮兮地揶揄他：「是不是債務人堵在你家門口，你不敢回家呀？」
「不是。」他哀怨地對我說：「是因為太晚回家了，沒有車位可以停。只好睡到車上來。」
不久之後他要搬家，整整打包了三個晚上才把他的東西收完。
兩台中型卡車載完他的家當。搬家的那幾天他心力交瘁，因為每一樣東西都很貴重，禁不起一點點不小心撞擊。
他終於崩潰。他說：「這些東西我 一個月摸不到三次，卻要為它們這麼 作牛作馬 ，唉！」
而且，這些東西的錢還沒有完全付完，每一個月，都被銀行追討利息。
當他看著身邊的好朋友… 一個一個在年假當中都要收拾行李出國去玩了，而他正要面臨卡爆的危機，困在這個小小的島嶼上，忍不住悲從中來。
他承認，他失去了自由。
我發現擁有一個東西是一體兩面，如你我擁有一個東西、享受他，同時你也是受到他的支配、他的擁有。
這個東西讓你付出的代價是時間、精神、金錢，如果他對於你沒有提供相對的價值和利益，那麼就是浪費，浪費你的時間、金錢和精神。
從我的朋友擁有一部汽車開始，他就陷入了被汽車擁有的生活。
原本他可以騎著機車上班，停在人行道或者任何不用付錢的地方，靈活地在這個城市到處遊走。他也可以搭乘大眾交通工具，幾拾元可以戴著他到他想去的任何地方，拍拍屁股下車，沒有煩惱。可是擁有了一部汽車之後，雖然免去了身體奔波之苦，可是卻要開始面對為車奔波之苦。
他的約會開始遲到，出門常常找不到車位，回家也沒有自己的停車位可以停，生活老是在為車位煩惱。
而且幾個月之後他告訴我他已經很少開車出門，原因是，油價花費太高，負擔不起。他說他失去了自由。
我們總是在追求更高、更好的享受，所有的科技物質發展也朝著人類這樣的需求進行。 但是，沒有一個人可以這樣全面地擁有所有物質享受。
我曾經試過，在一天疲累的上班族生活下來，其實你最需要的，是一碗麵、一台電視機，一個人。
你沒有多餘的時間去把玩你手上的那麼多東西。
在假日，最幸福的是和家人或者朋友吃一頓飯，然後回家休息。
說要出遠門要籌畫很久。
而且，衣櫃裡面那些美麗的衣服和鞋櫃裡的新鞋子，你總是找不到適當的時機去穿。
現代人擁有太多用不到、也享受不到的東西，卻還是要拚命地滿足心理沒有完全的那個夢。
擁有一個東西，你其實就失去兩個自由。
一個是被物質綑綁的自由，一個是面臨被金錢支配的自由。
這世界沒有僥倖，人總要為年輕的錯誤付出代價。原來，節儉的目的是自由。

If for a moment God would forget that I am a rag doll and give me a scrap of life, possibly I would not say everything that I think, but I would definitely think everything that I say.

I would value things not for how much they are worth but rather for what they mean.

I would sleep little, dream more. I know that for each minute that we close our eyes we lose sixty seconds of light.

I would walk when the others loiter; I would awaken when the others sleep.

I would listen when the others speak, and how I would enjoy a good chocolate ice cream.

If God would bestow on me a scrap of life, I would dress simply, I would throw myself flat under the sun, exposing not only my body but also my soul.

My God, if I had a heart, I would write my hatred on ice and wait for the sun to come out. With a dream of Van Gogh I would paint on the stars a poem by Benedetti, and a song by Serrat would be my serenade to the moon.

With my tears I would water the roses, to feel the pain of their thorns and the incarnated kiss of their petals...My God, if I only had a scrap of life...

I wouldn't let a single day go by without saying to people I love, that I love them.

I would convince each woman or man that they are my favourites and I would live in love with love.

I would prove to the men how mistaken they are in thinking that they no longer fall in love when they grow old--not knowing that they grow old when they stop falling in love. To a child I would give wings, but I would let him learn how to fly by himself. To the old I would teach that death comes not with old age but with forgetting. I have learned so much from you men....

I have learned that everybody wants to live at the top of the mountain without realizing that true happiness lies in the way we climb the slope.

I have learned that when a newborn first squeezes his father's finger in his tiny fist, he has caught him forever.

I have learned that a man only has the right to look down on another man when it is to help him to stand up. I have learned so many things from you, but in the end most of it will be no use because when they put me inside that suitcase, unfortunately I will be dying.

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Till this day, I haven’t got the guts to watch The Passion of the Christ. I know the movie is going to make me cry like a fool, being low in EQ. It’s more of a Good Friday (or is it Friday the 13th?) movie. The thought of the torments inflicted upon Jesus by men is enough to disturb my mind. But one of these days, I should brace up myself to watch it! Not for the crying sake, but to hypnotize myself to believe I’m strong enough to carry my own cross.

Are we willing to die for our loved ones? Not to mention for our enemies. No?? Because we are all smartasses, not a psycho like Jesus???? Get slashed in your flesh and think again. You have to be a psycho to be God!!

Born in Dortmund, Germany on February 16, 1948, Tolle experienced what he called "inner transformation," after suffering long periods of suicidal depression at 29 years of age. Since 1996, Eckhart Tolle has been a living author in Vancouver, BC, Canada. In keeping happiness fully in tact, Eckhart Tolle released ten powerful insightful steps he believes must be followed to attain and maintain true happiness. Here they are:

1. Don't seek happiness. If you seek it, you won't find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it.
2. The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral, which always is as it is. There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts. For example, "I am ruined" is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. "I have 50 cents left in my bank account" is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering.
3. See if you can catch the voice in your head, perhaps in the very moment it complains about something, and recognize it for what it is: the voice of the ego, no more than a thought. Whenever you notice that voice, you will also realize that you are not the voice, but the one who is aware of it. In fact, you are the awareness that is aware of the voice. In the background, there is the awareness. In the foreground, there is the voice, the thinker. In this way you are becoming free of the ego, free of the unobserved mind.
4. Wherever you look, there is plenty of circumstantial evidence for the reality of time—a rotting apple, your face in the bathroom mirror compared with your face in a photo taken 30 years ago—yet you never find any direct evidence, you never experience time itself. You only ever experience the present moment.
5. Why do anxiety, stress, or negativity arise? Because you turned away from the present moment. And why did you do that? You thought something else was more important. One small error, one misperception, creates a world of suffering.
6. People believe themselves to be dependent on what happens for their happiness. They don't realize that what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe. It changes constantly. They look upon the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn't have or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have. And so they miss the deeper perfection that is inherent in life itself, a perfection that lies beyond what is happening or not happening. Accept the present moment and find the perfection that is untouched by time.
7. The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be; otherwise, you will be forced to relive the past again and again.
8. Equating the physical body with "I," the body that is destined to grow old, wither, and die, always leads to suffering. To refrain from identifying with the body doesn't mean that you no longer care for it. If it is strong, beautiful, or vigorous, you can appreciate those attributes—while they last. You can also improve the body's condition through nutrition and exercise. If you don't equate the body with who you are, when beauty fades, vigor diminishes, or the body becomes incapacitated, this will not affect your sense of worth or identity in any way. In fact, as the body begins to weaken, the light of consciousness can shine more easily.
9. You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you and allowing that goodness to emerge.

10. If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace.

    

Exerpted from Oneness with All Life by Eckhart Tolle. Published by arrangement with Dutton, a member of Penguin Group (USA), Inc. Copyright © 2008 by Eckhart Tolle

Most of the time, we only see the imperfections in people. Subconsciously, we become judgmental. Your mouth may say, “yes, I respect your different views from mine.” Then when you turn around, you sigh, “what a fool!”

Find at least one good quality in everyone, no matter how many defects are visible to you. The more you focus on the good, the more power you give to people, the sooner they will be able to change. Faith in others enables them to be powerful.

Projection: Faith in others is usually mistaken for blind faith - observing helplessly only hoping for the best in our heart. We then consciously don't do anything but just hope for the best.  In such a situation we subtly experience fear or tension. But this is not true faith nor is the outcome usually right.

Solution: Faith in others means to remain alert to what is going on and then to fill the other person with the strength of our faith to such an extent that they feel able to do whatever needs to be done. Our faith will fill them with confidence and they will be able to give their best to the task.

這是一個老師的故事，至今都珍藏心裡，讓自己明白在人世界，其實不應該放過每一個能夠幫助別人的機會。也許你早已忘記，但這種光，卻可以溫暖一個個冷漠的心靈。

那是在十年前的一天，當這位老師正利用中午休息時間，在家裡睡覺時，突然間，電話鈴響了，她接過來一聽，裡面卻傳出一個陌生粗暴的聲音說：「你家的小孩偷書，現在被我們抓住了，你快來啊！」在話筒裡還傳出一個小女孩的哭鬧聲，和旁邊人的喝叱聲。她回頭眺望著一邊正在看電視的唯一女兒，心中立即就明白過來。

肯定是有一位小女孩，因為偷書被售貨員抓住了，而又不肯讓家裡人知道，所以，胡編了一個電話號碼，才踫巧打到這裡。她當然可以放下電話不理，甚至也可以斥責對方，因為這件事，和她沒有任何關係。但自己是老師，說不定她就是自己的學生呢？透過電話，她隱約可以設想出，那個一念之差的小女孩，一定非常驚慌害怕，正面臨著也許是人生中最可怕的境地。猶豫了片刻之後，她的腦海裡突然冒出了一個念頭，對了，就這樣做。於是，她問清了書店的地址之後，就趕了過去。

正如她預料的那樣，在書店裡站立著一位滿臉淚跡的小女孩，而旁邊的大人們，正惡狠狠的大聲斥責著。她一下衝上去，將那個可憐的小女孩摟在懷裡，轉身對旁邊的售貨員說道：「有什麼跟我說吧，不要嚇著孩子。」在售貨員不情願的嘀咕聲中，她交清了幾十元罰款，才領著這個小女孩，走出了書店，並看清楚了那張被淚水與驚恐，弄得一塌糊塗的臉。她笑了起來，將小女孩領到家中，好好清理了一下，什麼都沒有問，就讓小女孩離開了，臨走時，她還特意叮囑道，如果你要看書，就到阿姨這裡來，裡面有好多書呢。驚魂未定的小女孩，深深的看了一眼，便飛一般的跑走了，便再也沒有出現。

時間如流水匆匆而過，不知不覺間，十年的光陰，一晃而過，她早已忘記了這件事，依舊住在這裡，過著平靜安祥的生活。

有一天的中午，門外響起了一陣敲門聲。當她打房門後，看到了一位年輕漂亮的陌生女孩，露著滿臉的笑容，手中還捧著一大堆禮物。「妳找誰？」她疑惑的問道，但女孩卻激動的說出一大堆話。好不容易，她才從那個陌生女孩的敘述中，恍然發現，原來她就是當年偷書的那個小女孩，十年之後，已經順利從大學畢業，現在還特意來看望自己。這個年輕女孩眼睛裡泛著淚光，輕聲說道﹕「雖然我至今都不明白，您為什麼願意冒充我媽媽，解救了我，但我總覺得，這十年來，一直都想喊您一聲～媽媽！」老師的眼睛裡，也開始糊模起來，她有些好奇的問道﹕「如果那天我不幫妳，會發生怎樣的結果？」女孩的臉上，立即變得陰沉下來，輕輕搖著頭說道﹕「我說不清楚，也許就會去做傻事，甚至是去死。」

老師的心中猛然一顫，開始暗暗慶幸。自己當年在一念之間所做出的決定，竟然可以如此影響到一個人的一生。

望著女孩臉上幸福的笑容，她也一起笑了起來。

看看現在的自己的生活條件，再回想十年後的自己。也許你現在所做的決定可以影響你的一生。

When I was a teenager, I used to have a songbook where I copied lyrics by hand & have my room walls pasted with posters of my pop idols. But today, my 9-year-old gal, Cheryl, said to me, "Mommy........ please do us a favor...... Derrick wants lyrics for "this song, that song", please search & print for us, please......... Derrick also said "please" to me & he's willing to pay RM1 for 3 songs!"

How was I supposed to react to this? For 5 seconds, I was speechless. She said, "Please......" ~ the wonders of "Magic Words"? And visualize that face of hers ~ remember Puss In Boots In Shrek, he always gets his way of being helpless & wide-eyed??

I just couldn't tamper her confidence of "wanting" me to help, it's a small favor after all. I even suggested that Derrick should get a hand-copied songbook like mine in those days, she replied, "We don't have time for that!"

And here, our finance guru, Warren Buffet shares:

1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!

Things were very cheap that time. Encourage your children to invest.

2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

One could have bought many things with little savings. Encourage your children to start some kind of business.

3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.

Don't buy more than what you "really need" and encourage your children to do & think the same.

4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.

You are what you are.

5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.

Always think how you can accomplish things economically.

6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis.

Assign the right people to do the right jobs.

7. He has given his CEO's only two rules.

Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.

Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

Set goals and make sure people focus on them.

8. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.

Don't try to show off, just be your self and do what you enjoy doing.

9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.

His advice to young people:

"Stay away from credit cards (bank loans) and invest in yourself and Remember:

~ Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.

~ Live your life as simple as you are.

~ Don't do what others say, just listen them, but do what you feel good.

~ Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which you feel comfortable.

~ Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who really in need rather.

After all it's your life then why give chance to others to rule our life."

Click here also for Warren Buffet's Advice for 2009

Cyber sex is in its essence desiring something that is sinful (fornication or adultery). Cyber sex is fantasizing about that which is immoral and impure. In no sense could cyber sex be considered noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy. Cyber sex is virtual adultery. It is fantasizing about a person lustfully and encouraging another person into immoral lust. Cyber sex leads a person into the trap of “ever-increasing wickedness” (Romans 6:19). A person who is immoral in his/her mind and desires will eventually become immoral in his/her actions. Yes, cyber sex most definitely is a sin!