第一條：努力賺錢，自己花。 台幣越來越薄，男人越來越不可靠，如果自己有錢，一切都可以好過點。我最近勤於逛新屋、看豪宅，希望有一天能在自己的浴缸裡看山，廚房裡有菲佣燉著雞湯，透明玻璃餐桌上有一盆草莓和一壺expresso，洗完澡後穿上Tsumorichisato的睡袍，看看報紙雜誌，再換上miumiu套裝前進麗晶挑挑新貨。或者是，到畫廊搜搜常玉的畫，再以十倍價差來脫手，找幾個朋友寫寫歌、談談音樂，在我臥房的露台下當然，除了賺錢自己享受外，妖精們切記一件重要的事項：「別讓男人花你的錢。」陶子身邊的智障麻瓜們，常常唉聲氣地訴說在街上巧遇舊情人的苦處，不但怨恨他那麼快又有了新女伴，更氣不過的是：「陶子，他欠我的六萬塊還沒還耶！」這位麻瓜月薪不過三萬元，當初不但供吃住給他的男人，還標會讓他買電玩、衣服最後，人還是跑了。女人，努力賺錢，自己花。

第二條：努力戀愛，努力青春。
怕皮鬆肉垂？妳沒做臉做spa嗎？怕年齡大？你沒聽過姐弟戀嗎？能剋服這二項障礙，妳就成功地向妖精界邁進了一大步了。妖精之所以成妖，就是讓平庸的人類無法從外表判斷其年齡；妳一定看過皮膚乾澀、滿臉痘子的「年輕」女孩，也一定看過白晰光滑、吹彈可破的玉肌「妖精」女子，可見要歲月在妳身上留下痕跡或是智慧，仍然可以自由選擇。青春之後，戀愛機會自然大壞；而戀愛的滋潤，更是青春不老的強力春藥；所以，麻瓜們，請努力栽培自己、培養戰鬥力，如果還不清楚，請在家中掛起林志玲、劉嘉玲、關芝琳和辛曉琪的照片，一日三拜。

第三條：努力清醒，除舊佈新。
不管在事業、家庭或愛情，最忌諱的便是優柔寡斷、夜長夢多；不但問題懸而未決，還成一個阻擋妳前進的大包袱。所以，在開年之時，請給妳自己一個沒人打擾的時間，平心靜氣地思考，那些事該做個整理，甚至了斷，別讓鎖事阻礙了妳前進的動力。這個工作沒有前景，不是你的興趣，不如早早歸去；這個男人曾經傷害妳，食之無味，那就趕快丟棄---沒有什麼男人是會棄之可惜的---只有妳放棄了自己對感情的堅持，那才遺憾。最後，陶子提醒麻瓜們注意的事項是，努力清醒的真諦。妖精能不害人，才是最高境界。努力清醒，不管對方多帥，性能力多強，是別人的老公就不行；例子我就不用再舉，切忌切記，我希望看見許多美麗的妖精。

第四條：捨得自己過生活。
每到晚上七點十分，便得提著垃圾到巷子口等垃圾車來。久而久之，就認識了住附近的一位老婆婆，她年逾古稀，依然目光如炬，健步如飛。老婆婆總是向我抱怨她的媳婦，她常說：「我媳婦老愛把帶孫子的責任丟給我，以為這樣我才不會癡呆。
她怎麼了解，我每天一大清早要到公園裡和二十幾年的姊妹淘唱卡拉OK，然後星期一、三、五要上銀髮族英語會話正音班，二、四早上要上電腦。下午要去我們的長青聯誼社開讀書會，最近我們在讀一些日本漫畫，什麼流星、什麼壽司的，可好玩了！有時候，還得和三五好友喝喝下午茶、看看展覽，趁非假日嘛！老人票很便宜的！晚上我得看八點檔連續劇，然後再看九點檔的鄉土綜藝節目，什麼什麼夜總會的。週末我就更忙了！爬山、泡茶、去公園餵魚、餵流浪狗去寺廟拜拜打禪吃素！
喔，最近我還買了最新款的自動調焦單眼相機，想玩玩攝影呢！」我問老婆婆：「那妳那些可愛的小孫子呢？」老婆婆說：「我已經照顧完我的小孩了，陪孩子長大的機會可只有一次，這機會該屬於孩子的父母，要我偶爾帶帶，兼職可以，全職？我可忙的呢！」我問：「妳捨得？」老婆婆說：「我捨得將我的青春都給了我的孩子，現在，我得捨得走出門，捨得活自己，捨得去發現，原來時代是這樣進步的！」在老婆婆總是快捷俐落的身影裡，原來有顆不老的心！她總說，她得快一點，再快一點！日子每天少一天，不多了。女人真的要多愛自己一點....

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning."

2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"

4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
"Because I said so, that's why."

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."

7. My mother taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS .
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA .
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER .
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"

15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING .
"You are going to get it when you get home!"

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way."

19. My mother taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"

20. My mother taught me HUMOR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT .
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."

22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you.  Do you think you were born in a barn?"

24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."

And my favorite:
25. My mother taught me about JUSTICE .
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you.”

While having popiah & my now regular kopi-o kurang manis alone at kopitiam this morning, a car with the registration no. 1312 passed by. A number which I still don’t get the answer from bro Pat but coincides with Cher’s birth date. He only said this, from the first glimpse of Cher, he knew she’s not ordinary… 1=1 God, 3=Holy Trinity, 12=12 apostles. (I can hear someone saying “BS” now & I know what he means.) Let’s just hope he’s right. What harm has he done??

Instantly I texted & greeted him a “good morning”. After his round of construction site-survey, he dropped by at the showroom & gave Cher (who was still in her Taekwondo uniform) 2 laminated cards of prayers & for me, 1 laminated picture of Mother Mary holding John Paul II in Her arms when he was shot in 1981.

He gave his promise ~ a massage for me when he knew that I always have problems with neckache. I could hear the nerves twitching sound unlocking when his strong hands kneading through both my arms, hands, back, neck & head like I’m a piece of fat meat. Hah!! My hands are still painful after the pressing ~ minor headaches, he said. No migraine, thank God. Amazingly he could feel the lump in my head where I fainted & hit hard on. But the pain isn’t that bad anymore. This was the best massage I ever had in my entire life.

Believe me, for a moment, I felt Holy Spirit has rested on me via him. No awkwardness towards an almost total stranger whom I have known only by chance not long ago. No blushing when he mentioned, “Don’t worry, I won’t touch your breasts!” Thank you, bro Pat.

Sometimes we just can’t explain why we are doing godly things to certain people. ~ This is what I believe, Holy Spirit works through & in us when we are chosen.

Dear readers, Please go to Tun Dr. Mahathir Mohamad’s blog to vote whether you want teaching of Maths & Science in English. Tun is strongly supporting English & is willing to convey your message to the Government. So, please go to http://chedet.co.cc/chedetblog/ & speak your mind. Strike while the iron is hot! Do it today for the sakes of our children! Please pass this message to as many people as possible. Thank you.

I dare to say I believe in God (without second thought) because we are all unique tools to serve God in different ways. If everyone looks alike (do I have to wear like a nun??), thinks alike, speaks alike, behaves alike, has same interests, what would this world become like???

Who are we to judge others on their appearances, the languages they speak, the food they eat, the arts they love, etc.?? We can’t save the world by changing others to be like ourselves. Your ways may not be the best. Why can’t I try different approaches?? He rewards us differently as well. You may be blessed with rounds of world tours, and I’m blessed with a beautiful child. At the end of the day, He loves us all the same.

When I received these black & white pictures from a friend, I fell in love with them instantly. I wish I could travel back to those days where nudity was the 1st natural thing to be. Since when “men” see it as obscenity & sexual arousal? Didn’t God create us in His image? Are we ashamed in His image? It was the beasts in men who have created women as sex icons. It’s how one perceives nudity.

I can’t believe the Cabinet’s decision to reverse the teaching of Science and Mathematics policy back in BM starting 2012. And I agree that this is another abuse of power by BN. Picture this: our future Malaysian pillars who go on Global Conventions in BM technical & scientific terms with poor command of English, the international language. This foolish decision is on the way of producing “laughing stocks” to the world.

Why are we, Anak Malaysia, so unfortunate to have such leaders?? This is why Malaysia is always way behind our neighbouring country, Singapore. If everyone could afford to migrate, trust me, they would have done so long ago. Then BN could celebrate in the attitude of “We are proud to be Malaysians. This is who we are!! Take it or leave it.” Welcome to Malaysia.

 

Meet Igor, my sis’ iguana. Babysitting it over the weekend while sis & the rest flew to Miri to attend uncle Louis’ housewarming cum birthday party. Both sis & I love cold blooded creatures. Easy to tend to & they don’t make noise. Hah! Unfortunately Cher doesn’t dare to touch & hold any creatures, be them hot or cold blooded. The sight of a cockroach or a lizard is enough to make her scream & hop around. Haiz!

Yesterday as I was about to pay off after eating Shanghainese Dimsum buffet breakfast with Cher after attending morning church service, I realised my purse was left in another handbag. Panicked. This was the 2nd embarrassing encounter in my life. The 1st time was lucky as I know these vendors well. Now!! Who could I think of to come & “rescue” us from washing dishes for the Shanghainese lady boss? I thought of bro Pat because at that moment we have just communicated through texting. But no lah, I don’t feel nice to impose on him after all I have not really known him for long.  So I called aunt Grace to try my luck. Thank God, she came shortly to our rescue. Phew!

I don’t know why… but it certainly seemed like a very long weekend for me. Still feeling tired & lazy.

	how you feel about yourself now (The Magician) You feel a sense of purpose and the willpower to get things done. Self-empowerment is the key word here. Any new enterprises in love or career show great potential. You feel that you have the ability to think on your feet and, faced with opposition, the appearance of The Magician is an excellent omen of success. Time to believe in your self and go for it! (I know…. rely on no one but myself. Men would say this to me… so why do I need a man for??)
	what you most want at this moment (Judgement) The cards suggest Ally, that what you most want at this time is a new start, to close this chapter in your life and have a brand new beginning. This is not a time for regret but for rejoicing. Rewards for past efforts will follow and you are sure to have many opportunities presented to you. Life will pick up a pace and the choices you make will have far reaching implications that could change your life dramatically. Any legal issues should be ruled in your favour. (I’m looking forward to the new chapter, shouldn’t be long I guess…. As for legal issues, I seriously pray for favourable answers to them.)
	your fears (Strength) You are fearful of lacking the will power and strength to deal with someone or something that concerns you. Feeling negative and listening to all your fears will only cause failure and lost opportunities. Be as brave as a lion but work compassionately and you’ll be fine. (If chanting helps….. “I’m a lion! I’m a lion! I’m fearless of no one & nothing!! Except the Almighty?? ~ I can hear someone keeps repeating that to me….”)
	what is going for you (The Hanged Man) With patience this passive time, this time of feeling in limbo and indecision, will pass. You will know what decisions to make, what or who to let go of and how to move on. Whatever self-sacrifice you have to make you will feel a better and stronger person for it. (Patience & self-sacrifice huh…… another those “only time will tell” statement….. Sigh! Life!)
	what is going against you (The Star) This is a period of tension and frustrations, you feel pessimistic and fearful that your hopes will be dashed. Any bad luck you may be having is primarily down to your self-doubt and negativity. Have faith that your luck will change. (O Lord, please renew & strengthen my faith….)
	outcome (The Emperor) Expect success and achievement of your goals, this is a time for fulfilment of your ambitions. If you have placed your trust in your father, husband/partner or a man of significance in your life, they will come up trumps for you. If you have been the victim of ill-will don’t worry, you will win in the end. (God bless me.)

God bless, my name is Tjong Khim Long/ Tjuk Lin Tse -- alias Yusuf.? Tjuk Lin Tse is the name I use in my profession. I was born in North Kalimantan but have settled down in Jakarta for 21 years as a Chinese physician. I am also a member of the Indonesian Chinese Physicians' Association. Besides being a Chinese physician, I am also a fortune teller, I started my practice at a fee of Rp. 500 for each patient. The latest fee before my repentance in 1988 was Rp. 150,000 per patient for half an hour's consultation. I had so many patients that they have to wait for their turn for 2 to 3 months, and sometimes even up to 4 months to have their fortune told.

1. Method of Fortune

After a patient has registered and the turn came for his fortune to be told, he will come into the room. The moment he walked in, I knew the problem he faced that caused him to look for me - whether it was about work, family or others. I also knew what sickness he was suffering from and if he needed medical surgery and how many times he had undergone surgery. What's more, I knew everything about his children, whether they are widows or widowers, etc. That was not my power.. I learned the method of fortune telling from the knowledge descended from my ancestors. I did not learn it from books. Since I was young I was trained by praying, fasting and reciting charms.

When a patient approaches me to have his fortune told, it was the spirit that is in him that told the spirit that was with me. Even my student who has not passed could be accompanied by a spirit that would tell him everything. Because it was the spirit in the patient that told the spirit that was with me, which enabled me to read my patient's mind, that was why I was confident that I could tell fortunes accurately. So then how did a person from such a background as me believe in Jesus when I totally could not believe in Jesus?

At that time, Jesus, to me, was not of the same race as me, so how could He bring me to heaven? It was even impossible for me to dream about it. To me, the Bible was written by men, it is not something that dropped down from the sky. But now I believe in Jesus, maybe more than some Christians do. I did not become a Christian through a Christian.? Even if there was someone who handed me 100 million Rupiah to become a Christian, I would not want to be a Christian, I would reject that offer. I became a believer through a long process from God Himself.

2. How did I believe in Jesus?

1st February 1988 was the when I started to believe in Jesus. Every human being possesses love and it was through love that I got to know Jesus. The love that I am relating is the love between husband and wife. On 23 March 1987 my wife passed away due to an illness that caused her to lose her appetite for food. Although I was a physician, I had never given her any prescriptions.

Instead I brought her to other famous physicians for prescriptions. There was a room in my house which was like a temple. For 21 years, the idols that I worshipped could move and during the course of my wife's illness, I worshipped those idols. But there were no results. All my other efforts to cure my wife did not have any results too.? At last my wife was sent to the hospital, but the doctor could not figure out what my wife was suffering from? The general check-up showed that my wife was healthy, there was no illness.? At that time my wife could only eat 2 spoonfuls of food. She would throw up if given another spoonful. After facing a dead end, my wife told me that she decided to

receive Jesus Christ and believe in Him. Although I did not believe in Jesus at all, I permitted my wife to go ahead because of my love for her. When my wife believed in Jesus, she was prayed upon by my son and daughter who at that time already were believers of Jesus.

After being prayed upon, my wife slept soundly that night. When she woke up the next day, she looked so radiant and since then she could sleep peacefully every night. What happened in return made me unable to sleep. How did that happen?

Imagine, my wife had believed in Jesus, but my house was still full of idols. According to my prediction, my wife would return home from the hospital in 8 to 10 days and the situation at home would undoubtedly be a problem for her. As Christ's believer my wife would say "Halleluiah and Praise God", while I still had to say words of my idol worship.

This difference would undoubtedly result in an uncomfortable atmosphere.

3. Idols in my house destroyed

Immediately I gathered my students for a meeting, but they could not come up with a suggestion for a way out. Due to the love for my wife, I destroyed every kind of idols in my house, including the one from Ming Dynasty that could move.

The doctor found out that my wife was suffering from cancer of the intestines 6 hours before the passing away of my wife. We thought that it was only hemorrhoids. When my wife passed away, I was still an unbeliever. Since my wife already received Christ, her funeral service was carried out in a Christian manner.

There was a service in my house every night and I had to pray after them in the name of Jesus. I also heard about Jesus and how He gives life and heaven to those who believes in Him. I wanted to know where my wife was; in heaven or in hell. According to the Christians and pastors, my wife is in Heaven, but how could they proof that to me? No one has ever been to heaven and returned to tell me that my wife is in heaven.

4. Attending the church seminar in South Korea

In August 1987, there was a church seminar for Asians. My family of 7 registered for the seminar. I attended the events but not the services. Many churches in Asia sent their representatives there. I went there just to learn about Jesus.

I have 4 children, 1 son and 3 daughters. My eldest daughter was totally deaf. She could not hear at all, not even the sound of burning firecrackers. I brought her along to Korea anyway. We went to the Mount of Prayer, where people go there in throngs. At that time, a total of 163 Indonesian went there, including my family. There were caves in which we could I pray. I was interested to know about those caves. I queued up but my turn never came. I met a church elder from Taiwan. I saw him pray in the name of Jesus for healing without any charms or medicines. There was a person whose arms were not of the same length, after being prayed for in the name of Jesus, his shorter arm grew outward and became the same length with the other!

I was also an ex-acrobat and magician, but what I saw was not magic. Then I asked that church elder to heal my eldest daughter. He told me that he has no power to heal, but he only relies on the power of Jesus. I was given the opportunity to witness God's power. The church elder placed his two fingers in my eldest daughter's ears and prayed.

He said that in the name of Jesus this child must be able to hear and say 'Amen'. After he finished praying, he snapped his fingers behind my eldest daughter, she could now hear.

That incident really touched my heart because for 31 years my eldest daughter could not hear a single sound. Now she could hear just through a prayer. That church elder taught my daughter to say "Halleluiah" and she was able to follow after him although not fully accurate. At that moment I felt like country fellow who for the first time came to the city. I felt the magnificence of God.

5. I began to feel the awesome power of God

On the way back to Indonesia, we stopped by Taiwan and Hong Kong.  Usually each time I was in Singapore or Taiwan, I did not have the chance to go anywhere since many people would come to me to have their fortune told. But no one knew about my stop over in Taiwan then, so I had the chance to go to a place of recreation called Wu Lay.

When I came back from Wu Lay, my foot began to swell to a size bigger than my shoes could fit. But due to my scheduled flight, I had to fly to Hong Kong with my foot which condition was getting even worse. I thought that if it worsened even more, I would have to carry my shoes to Indonesia . So I asked my daughters to pray for me. After they prayed in the name of Jesus, I did not see any results. They prayed a second time, still there was no change. So I left it at that and went to sleep.? The next day when I woke up, my foot was healed! Filled with joy, I went back to Indonesia with my shoes on. At that time, I still did not want to believe in God, and I continued my profession as a fortune teller. At that time, I was also suffering from diabetes and chronic high blood pressure.. In that situation, I wanted to know how great God's power is. I did not take any medicines, instead I asked my children to pray for me. After being prayed for, I went to the doctor for a check-up. The doctor asked me where I went to seek medical attention for the past month. He was amazed at the result of my check-up. I told him I did not seek any medical attention at all. He did not believe that without any medication my illness could be healed. My diabetes and chronic high blood pressure were back to normal. Back then it was difficult for my blood pressure to reach 150, but now it reaches between 135 - 85. What had happened assured me that there is great power behind prayers. I had to confess the splendor of God, but I was still unable to bring myself to fully accept Him. The problem laid with my profession as a fortune teller which enabled me to earn a lot of money easily. At that time I could earn about 500 to 600 thousand Rupiahs per day without any capital. If I were to accept Christ, I would have to leave my profession and I would not have any earnings. I was at a pinch, such that I chose to remain a fortune teller.

One thing that was very unusual, there were also many Christians who wanted their fortunes told. I got to know that because I bought 100 Bibles from Korea and I gave one to each of my patients. Some of them said that they already have a Bible, which could mean they are Christians and they believe in Jesus. When I asked them if Jesus still helped them, they said that Jesus used to help, but not anymore. I advised them that there must be something wrong and I suggested that they seek God earnestly. I told them that God is willing to help even someone who did not believe in Him, He helped me! At that time my fortune-telling became more popular, and many Christians was curious because there was a fortune teller who gave out Bibles. They said that in this world, the only fortune teller who would give out bibles is me!

6. My repentance

To end my testimony, on 1st February 1988 at 1 o'clock past midnight, I repented with all my heart. That day I went to look at 2 projects for Feng Shui. The last one was at Pondok Indah, a very broad land with many buildings. It was raining cats and dogs when I reached there, such that it was hard for me to get out from my car. I brought with me my compass but the compass needle would not point accurately from inside the car. So I had to go out from my car with an umbrella to look at the place. When I reached home, it was already close to 8 o'clock at night. I went to bed right after dinner because I wasn't feeling well. At midnight I was awaken with breathing difficulties. As a physician I knew that was a heart problem. The air that I exhaled seemed more than the air that I inhaled. I couldn't stand it anymore, and I knew that in 5 to 10 minutes, I would die. At that moment, I remembered the power of prayer, and I knelt down on my bed, praying to God that He would bring me through that critical moment so that I could see tomorrow.  After "Amen", there was no result, and my breathing grew more difficult. Again I knelt down and prayed to God. After a second "Amen", there was still no result.. I felt so uneasy and according to my prediction, I still had 2 minutes left. That short time would determine whether I would still live or die. In that situation, it was already impossible for me to return to worshipping idols because I have destroyed all of them, such that the only way then was to pray for healing. I promised that if I was healed, I wanted to believe in Jesus, obey Him, be His witness, serve Him and leave my old profession.

At that very moment, I believed that Jesus was right there in front of me. As usual I ended my prayer with "Amen", but amazingly, just as I was saying "A", before I could even say "Men", I was already breathing normally and fully healed. My body felt so fresh. It was as though I was young again, and I felt deep joy that I have never felt before for the whole of my 61 years I have lived in this world!

It was at that moment that I put my trust in Jesus. I am a man who holds on to my promises, and that was also why I fulfilled my promise that I made to Jesus.

On the 1st of April 1988, I announced that I no longer practice fortune-telling and Feng Shui although there were still many people who wanted to have their fortune told, including people form Singapore, Taiwan and Malaysia. God loves men, but it's a pity not many men wants to love Him. I felt very indebted to God who loves me so much and my desire is to repay His love.

I call out to you to get to know Jesus, believe in Him and receive him whole-heartedly. Trust in Him 100%, not 99%, and you will be saved, healed and restored in this world and also in heaven.

May this testimony of mine increase the faith of all believers and to tell the pre-believers that Jesus is not an idol which we can make, pick and choose but He is the God for men to put their trust in and to worship.

John 3:16 : For God so loved the world, that he gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life".

John 14:6 : Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

Hebrews 2: 3-4 : How shall we escape, if we neglect so great salvation; which at the first began to be spoken by the Lord, and was confirmed unto us by them that heard him; God also bearing them witness, both with signs and wonders, and with diverse miracles, and gifts of the Holy Ghost, according to his own will?

Hebrews 4:7b : "To day if ye will hear his voice, harden not your hearts.."

Acts 4:12 : Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.

John 1:12 : But as many as received him, to them gave the power to become the sons of? God, even to them that believe on his name.

We can do no great things, only small things with the great love of God.

Belief #1: SHE’LL NEVER BE SATISFIED.

Truth: Women are always looking for ways to make things better. Don’t take her suggestions as complaints or criticisms, but as her desire to make the relationship or situation the best that it can be.

Belief #2: A STRONG, CONFIDENT WOMAN DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER.

Truth: Everyone loves to be taken care of and to feel needed. Even if a woman can fix things around the house or change the oil in her car, she will still ask for your help so she can feel your strength, support and protection. Don’t ever stop asking, “What can I do for you?” because it shows her that you care.

Belief #3: WOMEN ONLY WANT TO CONTROL MEN.

Truth: It’s not about control; it’s about love. When a woman sees a man hurting, struggling or overwhelmed, her goal is to help, not control.
Let her give you a helping hand.

Belief #4: KEEPING A WOMAN REQUIRES A LOT OF HARD WORK, TIME AND MONEY.

Truth: A serious relationship requires time and effort to cultivate it. You shouldn’t look at it as a burden. Your wife or girlfriend will reciprocate the effort you put into it.

Belief #5: YOU CAN’T LIE TO WOMEN.

Truth: Women are extremely capable of picking up moods and attitudes and can easily read body language and facial expressions. Although you may think that you have gotten away with a great lie, she is either letting it slide because she wants to keep the peace, or she is lying to herself because she’s afraid of the truth.

Belief #6: JEALOUSY AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE A PART OF BEING A WOMAN.

Truth: Women are protective of what belongs to them. They protect the things they value, especially when it comes to relationships. It’s not that she doesn’t trust you; she is guarding the relationship. You are too precious to her for her to allow anything bad to happen.

Belief #7: WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL.

Truth: Women don’t hide their feelings. They articulate what’s going on in their minds. There’s nothing wrong with emotions—we all have them. Being in touch with their emotions causes women to be sensitive and caring, and that’s why men love them.

Since office’s wifi’s no long available, I use my self-paid broadband at work. But since Ron, my associate colleague, came in to share office with me ~ boss’ cutting cost on rentals, I let her use my office PC (even though she has a laptop but no internet access) and broadband whenever she reports to work on Mon, Wed & Fri. Tremendous pay-cut for her but she seems to be comfortable with it. Now left only two of us. Not sure who’s going to leave next or should I say last??

At home, since “his” disappearance, I also become lazy to go online. Feeling like something is missing in my life. I know what it is but I keep myself busy with online dramas. At least they keep me occupied & sleep well.

Most importantly, I know “he’s” somewhere out there living happily. Love is not possessive ~ I have my dignity as well. I can’t be so cheap to keep telling a man how I feel for him….

Que sera, sera… No question asked, this is the trust he demands. I trusted a man once & all I received was a  broken heart. So, I don’t want to know how exactly he’s doing now since he has no interest to inform me. I don’t want to know. Sometimes the truth hurts. So I don’t want to know. No, thank you.

So friends who have been wondering of my whereabouts, I’m still breathing ya…. Not so much of kicking around though, very tired, physically, mentally & emotionally….. Missing my bed now…. (Yeah, it’s the AV period again…. Haiz!)