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我们老得太快，却聪明得太迟 ~ GETTING OLD TOO SOON, GETTING SMART TOO SLOW把钱省下来，等待退休后再去享受。
结果退休后，因为年纪大，身体差，行动不方便，哪里也去不成。 钱存下来等养老，结果孩子长大了，要出国留学，要创业做生意，要花钱娶老婆，自己的退休金都被拗走了。 当自己有足够的能力善待自己时，就立刻去做老年人，有时候是无法做中年人或是青少年人可以做的事，年纪和健康就是一大因素。 小孩子从小就告诉他，养你到高中，大学以后就要自立更生，要留学，创业，娶老婆，自己想办法，自己要留多一点钱，不要为了小孩子而活。 我们都老得太快却聪明得太迟，我的学长去年丧妻。
这突如其来的事故，实在叫人难以接受，但是死亡的到来不总是如此。 学长说他太太最希望他能送鲜花给他，但是他觉得太浪费，总推说等到下次再买，结果却是在她死后，用鲜花布置她的灵堂。 这不是太蠢愚了吗？！ 等到...... 等到.....，似乎我们所有的生命，都用在等待。 我们对自己说:
「等到我大学毕业以后，我就会如何如何」 「等到我买房子以后！」
「等我最小的孩子结婚之后！」 「等我把这笔生意谈成之后！」 「等到我死了以后」 人人都很愿意牺牲当下，去换取未知的等待；牺牲今生今世的辛苦钱，去购买后世的安逸。 在台湾只要往有山的道路上走一走，就随处都可看到「农舍」变「精舍」，山坡地变灵塔，无非也是为了等到死后，能图个保障，不必再受苦。
许多人认为必须等到某时或某事完成之后再采取行动。 明天我就开始运动明天我就会对他好一点。 下星期我们就找时间出去走走。 退休后，我们就要好好享受一下。 然而，生活总是一直变动，环境总是不可预知，在现实生活中，各种突发状况总是层出不穷。
身为一个医生，我所见过的死人，比一般人要来得多。 这些人早上醒来时，原本预期过的是另一个平凡无奇的日子，没想到一个意料之外的事； 交通意外、脑溢血、心脏病发作等等。 剎那间生命的巨轮倾覆离轨，突然闯进一片黑暗之中。 那么我们要如何面对生命呢？我们毋需等到生活完美无瑕，也毋需等到一切都平稳，想做什么，现在就可以开始做起。 一个人永远也无法预料未来，所以不要延缓想过的生活，不要吝于表达心中的话，因为生命只在一瞬间。 记住！
给活人送一朵鲜花，强过给死人送贵重的花圈。 每个人的生命都有尽头，许多人经常在生命即将结束时，才发现自己还有很多事没有做，有许多话来不及说，这实在是人生最大的遗憾。 别让自己徒留「为时已晚」的空余恨。 逝者不可追，来者犹未卜，最珍贵、最需要实时掌握的「当下」，往往在这两者蹉跎间，转眼错失。 人生短暂飘忽，包得有一首小诗这样写：
高天与原地，悠悠人生路； 行行向何方，转眼即长暮。 正是道尽了人生如寄，转眼即逝的惶恐。 有许多事，在你还不懂得珍惜之前已成旧事；有许多人，在你还来不及用心之前 已成旧人。 遗憾的事一再发生，但过后再追悔。 「早知道如何如何」是没有用的。
「那时候」已经过去，你追念的人也已走过了你。 一句瑞典格言说：「我们老得太快，却聪明得太迟。」
不管你是否察觉，生命都一直在前进。 人生并未售来回票，失去的便永远不再。 将希望寄予「等到方便的时间才享受」。 我们不知失去了多少可能的幸福。 不要再等待有一天你「可以松口气」，或是「麻烦都过去了」。 生命中大部分的美好事物都是短暂易逝的，享受它们、品尝它们，善待你周围的每一个人，别把时间浪费在等待所有难题的「完满结局」上。 找回迷失的生命。 死亡也许是免费的 ~ 但是，却要付出生命的代价。 劝大家一句话：把握当下，莫等待。 TO LET GO TAKES LOVE BY UNKNOWN AUTHORTo 'let go' does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else. To 'let go' is not to cut myself off,
it is the realization that I cannot control another.
To 'let go' is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To 'let go' is to admit powerlessness.
To 'let go' is not to try to change or blame another,
it is to make the most of myself. To 'let go' is not to fix,
but to be supportive. To 'let go' is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being. To 'let go' is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To 'let go' is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality. To 'let go' is not to deny,
but to accept. To 'let go' is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them. To 'let go' is not to adjust everything to my own desires,
but to take each day as it comes, to cherish myself in it. To 'let go' is not to criticize and regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be. To 'let go' is not to regret the past,
but to grow and to live for the future. To 'let go' is to fear less,
And LOVE MORE. FEAR OF GOD OR LOVE??Why would a man text me in the middle of the night around 3:30a.m. when he suddenly woke up from his slumber & thought of me? Just to tell me I'm a nice lady, may God bless me & my child? Self denial is a lame excuse for the Fear of God. My dear, if you are so faithful to God, serve him whole-heartedly. I'm not challenging or being sarcastic about your faith to God because we are both his children. I would be very sad if one day you were to submit yourself to him (because that means "no chance" for me anymore lah) but I would still admire your courageous commitment to serve the community. You have my moral support. But if you were still trapped in the past failures in relationships, please brace yourself, be strong & positive. Forgive yourself for the failures. If you just want that warm feeling of having someone to hug you but no kissing, (because you were so afraid of becoming emotional (or physical?)) my door awaits you to come & knock at it. Come to mama!  DICKHEAD
I DID IT ~ MY FIRST CAKE!!!!Come on Ally, you can do it!! It's a premixed for goodness' sake!! Hahaha..... THERAPEUTIC PLANTS
LIVING SANCTUARYNo place's like home.... Everything's customized to my individuality. Of course it could be better if granted more space & power to spend. But I'm contented right here right now. Having my own space did showcase my little hidden potential on home improvement, like painting the walls(1st time in my life), drilling to fix wall shelves(till my fingers blistered), nailing to hang our picture frames(yeah, finally I have walls with stories to tell!). Noticed? I just love the color scheme, brown, golden & white, so ME! ~ down to earth!(at least that's what I believe I am) B*LLSH*TT*NG YOUNGER MEN
GOAL SETTING?Goal-setting? Seriously, when people asked me about my goals, I felt a bullet in my head. I always believe that paper qualification would give me confidence in building my career. All my life, I've been Jack of all trades but a master of none. I have tried MBA, ID, but have never had the determination to accomplish anything. When all my peers have gone furthering their studies in those days, I have already started my working journey way ahead of them. Let's be frank, many successful characters do not come from solid educational background. So I clearly understood that inadequate education isn't my roadblock. The problem lies in me, I really need a bad FALL. I remember how I pulled myself back on track from scratch when I was lost for 5 years. So who & what could possibly give me the push this time around to make me fall again? God, tell me my next mission, give it to me now, I'm so damn bored without direction...... Amen.
Gerald Sittser wrote that loss was…“like a closed road that forces us to turn around and find another way to our destination. Who knows what we will discover and see along the way?” SELFISHNESS IN ME
SEX IN THE CITYGirlfriend Sue analysed to me, single moms in our late 30's can forget about hunting & dreaming about depending on men. Why? Younger men are obviously going after our motherly care & erotic experiences. Men our age are mostly taken. older men are either divorced for some unfavorable reasons or single but something must be psychologically or physically wrong about them. I can't agree more with her. If only I were Samantha Jones in Sex in the City, Smith, yes, he's definitely my "Absolut Hunk"! Samatha said, "a man doesn't make you complete, you have to be happy with yourself". I said, "unless i'm filthy rich okay??!!"
WOMEN BEHIND MENA reporter who did a story on gender roles in Kabul, Afghanistan, several years before the Afghan conflict noted then that women customarily walked five paces behind their husbands.
She recently returned to Kabul and observed that women still walk behind their husbands. She approached one of the Afghan women and asked: ' Why do you now seem happy with the old custom that you once tried so desperately to change ?' The woman looked her in the eyes and without hesitation, said: 'Landmines! The Husband will get it first' Moral of the story : Behind every man is a damn smart woman! WOMEN OVER 40 BY ANDY ROONEYAs I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, 'What are you thinking?' She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting. Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it. Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?', here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage! CHINA 5.12 COMIC STRIPS BY COCO WANGi've only received this email today & it still made me cry! or am i just too soft? i felt life is so "cheap", it can be taken away just like that, in a "boom", in a glimpse, without notice, without justice & what's worse? we can't question god why all these happened. we can't even doubt about his almighty power. he's every right to give us lives & take them away as he likes?? maybe this is the reason why some men are fearful of him or of death??
all i could afford to do right here right now is praying & crying only. hopelessly. what could be next.... i wonder?
AWKWARD BUT WARMwas it since the day we both went separate ways to strive for our own living, or was it since the day i became someone's wife, or the moment my status has been upgraded to a mother?? you remain the same all these years, single, care-free, reckless in long-haul flights because you can't grab hold of your nicotine addiction & marriage is still a taboo for you. i'm sorry my failure in relationships must have shaken you a little. but i'm astonished by myself today for making the initial move to crack a joke with you today via sms, out of blue! it worked to tickle you & it's really nice to hear from you again, an old friend whom i thought i have lost, no matter how awkward our conversation can be....... the message is warm & i believe you have felt the same! NO BACKUPmy yahoo mail has come alive by itself finally(a little strange though)but now my office laptop has problems... i'm panic now because NO BACKUP for office document!!    HIS WISHFUL THOUGHT
SIMPLE COOKING FOR SIMPLE MEthis is the menu for my girl & myself, not for any other man! this is one of the reasons why i'm not fit to even consider signing my life away again. i've finally stood out to admit it, i'm not good. so enjoy my own recipe! at least my girl's appreciative friends are admiring her different lunch box everyday. maybe this is what my inner child has lived up for...
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