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LITTLE BOBBYLittle Bobby came into the kitchen where his mother was making dinner. His birthday was coming up and he thought this was a good time to tell his mother what he wanted. "Mom, I want a bike for my birthday."
Little Bobby was a bit of a troublemaker. He had gotten into trouble at school and at home. Bobby's mother asked him if he thought he deserved to get a bike for his birthday. Little Bobby, of course, thought he did. Bobby's mother wanted Bobby to reflect on his behavior over the last year. "Go to your room, Bobby, and think about how you have behaved this year. Then write a letter to God and tell him why you deserve a bike for your birthday." Little Bobby stomped up the steps to his room and sat down to write God a letter. ************ Letter 1 Dear God, I have been a very good boy this year and I would like a bike for my birthday. I want a red one. Your friend, Bobby Bobby knew that this wasn't true. He had not been a very good boy this year. So he tore up the letter and started over. ************ Letter 2 Dear God, This is your friend Bobby. I have been a good boy this year and I would like a red bike for my birthday. Thank you. Your friend, Bobby Bobby knew that this wasn't true either. So, he tore up the letter and started again. ************ Letter 3 Dear God, I have been an OK boy this year. I still would really like a bike for my birthday. Bobby Bobby knew he could not send this letter to God either. So, Bobby wrote a fourth letter. ************ Letter 4 God, I know I haven't been a good boy this year. I am very sorry. I will be a good boy if you just send me a bike for my birthday. Please! Thank you, Bobby Bobby knew, even if it was true, this letter was not going to get him a bike. Now, Bobby was very upset. He went downstairs and told his mom that he wanted to go to church. Bobby's mother thought her plan had worked, as Bobby looked very sad. "Just be home in time for dinner," Bobby's mother told him. Bobby walked down the street to the church on the corner. Little Bobby went into the church and up to the altar. He looked around to see if anyone was there. Bobby bent down and picked up a statue of the Mary. He slipped the statue under his shirt and ran out of the church, down the street, into the house, and up to his room. He shut the door to his room and sat down with a piece of paper and a pen. Bobby began to write his letter to God. ************ Letter 5 God, I'VE KIDNAPPED YOUR MAMA. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER AGAIN, SEND THE BIKE!!!!!! WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ANSWER?A couple went to the hillside in a bus. Half way through only the 2 of them got down. After the bus went on without them, a boulder dropped on the bus from nowhere, crashing it into smouldering. There was no survivor. The couple regretfully said: If only we hadn't got down. Well, most people would say, luckily we got off. Why do you think they would say the opposite? I DIDN'T LIE100% FOOLOne day, a very scholarly gentleman, while travelling in India, decided to go across big river, so he asked one of the village people who owned a small boat, if he would take him, to this request the boatman agreed. FROGS CROAK ONLY WHEN IT RAINSA village potter used to make pots and planters. He would go to a near by town to sell his wares. He had a donkey on whose back he would load the pots etc.
Diwali was fast approaching, so the potter decided to make some statues of Lord Ganesha and Goddess Lakshmi, to sell in town. He made some beautiful statues and painted them in bright colours. He then loaded them on to the back of his donkey and set off towards the city. On the way, he crossed many people. They would invariably fold their hands and bow to the statues of Ganesha and Lakshmi. By the time they reached the city, many people had bowed their heads before the deities. They reached the exhibition ground where the artisans could exhibit their things. Soon the potter was able to sell his statues for a good sum. He was pleased indeed! The potter took his donkey by the muzzle and set off on the road leading back to the village. Every time they would cross anyone, the donkey would stop and preen himself prettily as if he were a model. But what was the matter! No one seemed to as much as glance at him! Why were people not bowing their heads before him anymore? Desperate to catch their attention, the donkey started to bray louder & louder... He-haw, he-haw...... He went on. The passers-by started pelting stones at him in annoyance. The potter was bewildered too. The poor donkey had thought that everyone was bowing to him, little realizing that their reverence was directed to the idols of God tied to his back and not to him!
Many of us make this mistake. A person occupying a seat of power, often finds people saluting him. If he thinks that the salutations are in his honour, he is living in a fool's paradise, like the donkey in the story! The respect is given to the chair and not to the person occupying it. As soon as he steps down from the position, the people around him vanish. Frogs croak only when it rains, as soon as the rain stops, they vanish. 爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，你开始发现了对方的缺点，於是问题一个接著一个发生。你开始烦，累，甚至想要逃避。 有人说爱情就像在捡石头，总想捡到一个适合自己的。但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？她适合你，那你又适合她吗？其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意。但是记住人是有弹性的，很多事情是可以改变的。只要你有心，有勇气，与其到处去捡未知的石头，还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？
很多人以为是因为感情淡了，所以人才会变得懒惰。错！其实是人先被惰性征服，所以感情才会变淡的。
*在某个聚餐的场合，有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，这时候有个中年男人忽然说：十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！ 听到了吗？明白了吗？难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。如果每个人都懒得讲话，懒得倾听，懒得制造惊喜，懒得温柔体贴，那么夫妻或是情人之间，又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？ 所以请记住：有活力的爱情，是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！ *有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐，逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了，当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，他的男朋友很不高兴的说：你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了， 我以後再也不会等你了！
刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境；女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！
接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上，此刻，女孩流泪了，但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
你体会到了吗？其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时，很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！ 懂了吗？当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错，那并不代表你会选择他。 我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。 没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？ 其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发觉而已呢？所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！ 他或许已经等你很久喽！ 当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来， 完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
所以请记住：喝酒不要超过六分醉，吃饭不要超过七分饱，爱一个人不要超过八分。
那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！ 如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；要道歉，也要道谢；要认错，也要改错；要体贴，也要体谅；是接受，而不是忍受；是宽容，而不是纵容；是支持，而不是支配；是慰问，而不是质问；是倾诉，而不是控诉；是难忘，而不是遗忘；是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；是对方默默祈求，而不是向对方诸多要求；可以浪漫，但不要浪费；可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
让我们一起祝'愿天下有情人终成眷属!!!!!!! 女兒不要嫁過30歲的朋友，別擔心！這時還沒嫁代表你們是有能力的女人。 要她快樂不一定要嫁，女兒五歲，決定讓她上一所收費很高的幼稚園。 身為父親的他，感到十分欣慰。 常常拿著照片，跟我們講女兒有多麼聰明、可愛。 同事們問他：「從小照顧得這麼好，又這麼認真栽培，難不成你想要她以後當女總統啊？」他語重心長地說：「那倒不必，如果她真的很傑出，我希望她能夠獨立生活，不要嫁。經營一個幸福的家庭多麼不容易，女主人和男主人雙方要付出許多心血。有幾個男人願意這麼配合女人，營造一個幸福家庭？如果，我的女兒很傑出，勢必沒有辦法被限制在一個傳統婚姻的框架中，一旦結婚，丈夫又不是很上進、很能包容，注定會過得不幸福。」 他倒是講中了兩個重點： 1.【上進的男人不見得能夠包容一個和他一樣優秀的女人。】 2.【而不上進的男人，就算有再大的包容力，又怎麼能夠讓女人幸福呢？】 我寧願她安心地去發展自己的夢想，多交幾個男朋友，甚至有固定的性伴侶。想永遠住家裡，我一定很歡迎。想一個人搬出去住，我也會支持她。總之，我要她活得很快樂。一個人生活，快樂可以由自己主宰。嫁了人以後，自己的快樂卻操之在丈夫及公婆手裡。他很慎重地和大家分享內心真正的想法。 那次聊天以後，同事們的見解不一，有人認為：他太寵愛女兒了，寵愛到近乎想霸占她的地步。也有人覺得：兒孫自有兒孫福，他實在想得太多。我個人倒是認為，他的講法裡有幾個突破性的觀念，值得男性朋友深深思考： 第一、當你愛上一個女人時；是否能尊重她的想法及發展，並且全力支持？ 第二、迎娶一個心愛女人回來；是否能在事先安排好幫助她適應新環境的準備？ 第三、你的愛及你家人對你所愛的支持；是否一致？ 不論男性對上述問題的答案是什麼？ 對一位優秀的女性來說：『擁有一位疼愛自己、永遠不會逼女兒結婚的老爸，絕對比嫁一個不尊重女性的老公，要來得幸福得多』。 我想這也是大部分的現代女性懼怕婚姻的原因吧!不過，我相信只要彼此有心願意共同努力!珍惜與經營。幸福也不是那麼遙遠的事情，所以，單身的朋友們！請不要因身邊的朋友一個個步入婚姻而為自己心急!慎選一位適合自己的人才是最重要的!身旁已有個她的你，也請好好珍惜得來不易的幸福喔!! WHY SOME PEOPLE HAVE ALL THE LUCK?By Professor Richard Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire
Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve? A psychologist says he has discovered the answer. Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.
Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives and had them take part in experiments.
The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts and behaviour are responsible for much of their good and bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.
I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50."
This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.
Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.
As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties' intent on finding their perfect partner and so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs. The lucky ones make the best of what they have and find ways to make it better. Unlucky ones tend to find an easy way out and fail in life.
Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.
Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think and behave like a lucky person.
Dramatic results! These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to bad luck. One month later, the volunteers returned and described what had happened. The results were dramatic: 80% of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps most important of all, luckier.
The lucky people had become even luckier and the unlucky had become lucky.
Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor". Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and find ways to make things work better. Family and loved ones for a start.
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call.
The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect. Have a Lucky day and work for it. PLATONIC LOVEIts background isn't so simple: Plato actually defined love on several levels, the lowest of which involves sex, the beauty of the physical body and the senses, and the ideal level is one of a philosopher who loves a general and transcendental good/beauty. He also referred to an ideal love which involves homosexuality. Christianity later reformulated these ideas into a love for God and further separated the physical aspects, thus leaving us with a legacy of puritanical, repressive views on sex as non-spiritual and non-idealistic. So the moderm use of this term actually filtered out all other forms of Platonic love except the most 'ideal'. The modern connotation is that platonic love is idealistic and, using the dictionary definition, it describes a utopian, spiritual relationship that transcends physical desire. Once we look at it this way, we can argue that given the extremity of such a relationship, being 'just friends' is an oxymoron. But this hierarchy of platonic friendship over physical love is incorrect. Friendship serves as a basis for love which may or may not involve sex as an added value. If an ideal relationship is one that works at the deepest level and involves all beneficial forms of attachments and liasons, then an ideal relationship between man and woman must involve love and sex. Which means that the popular definition of platonic love is incorrect for both historical and semantical reasons. Which brings to the conclusion that a non-sexual, cross-gender friendship is restrictive, not idealistic. And this is restrictive tension that goes beyond the sexual. The bottom line is that the closer women and men get to each other, the more chances that the courtship, romance, lust and procreative mechanisms will be kicked into motion, especially when love develops. The closeness of the relationship is limited and even threatened because one has to constantly avoid its natural developments. Having a close but 'platonic' relationship is like trying to have your cake and eat it too. Digging even deeper, the separation between the genders is exquisite and finely tuned and the interactions between them are carefully engineered for natural growth and powerful synergy. At the same time, this power and deep interaction between opposing forces can only backfire when it isn't backed by a comprehensive and appropriately intimate environment. The closer men and women get, the more they will repel each other, unless they are held together by a strong glue. They are playing with fire without acquiring a fire extinguisher. PLATONIC FRIENDS??Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not? Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved. Harry Burns: No you don't. Sally Albright: Yes I do. Harry Burns: No you don't. Sally Albright: Yes I do. Harry Burns: You only think you do. Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge? Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you. Sally Albright: They do not. Harry Burns: Do too. Sally Albright: They do not. Harry Burns: Do too. Sally Albright: How do you know? Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her. Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive? Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too. Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU? Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Harry Burns: Would you like to have dinner? Just friends. Sally Albright: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends. Harry Burns: When did I say that? Sally Albright: On the ride to New York. Harry Burns: No, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends. MOM'S ON VACATIONANYTHINGWe can have anything we want as long as we give up the belief we cannot have it. The bottom line of anything is not money and profit, but people and relationships. WHAT COMES OUR WAYEverything that comes our way is but something we somehow once gave away. BLACK OR WHITEI was convinced that "I" was right and "he" was wrong - and he was just as convinced that "I" was wrong and "he" was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. "White," he answered. I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object. The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, "White." It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black. My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day: You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective. THE SPILT MILKHe responded that, in his opinion, it all came from an experience with his mother that occurred when he was about two years old. He had been trying to remove a bottle of milk from the refrigerator when he lost his grip on the slippery bottle and it fell, spilling its contents all over the kitchen floor—a veritable sea of milk!
When his mother came into the kitchen, instead of yelling at him, giving him a lecture, or punishing him, she said, "Robert, what a great and wonderful mess you have made! I have rarely seen such a huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage has already been done. Would you like to get down and play in the milk for a few minutes before we clean it up?"
Indeed, he did. After a few minutes, his mother said, "You know, Robert, whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up and restore everything to its proper order. So, how would you like to do that? We could use a sponge, a towel, or a mop. Which do you prefer?" He chose the sponge and together they cleaned up the spilled milk.
His mother then said, "You know, what we have here is a failed experiment in how to effectively carry a big milk bottle with two tiny hands. Let's go out in the back yard and fill the bottle with water and see if you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it." The little boy learned that if he grasped the bottle at the top near the lip with both hands, he could carry it without dropping it. What a wonderful lesson!
This renowned scientist then remarked that it was at that moment that he knew he didn't need to be afraid to make mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new, which is, after all, what scientific experiments are all about. Even if the experiment "doesn't work," we usually learn something valuable from it. ABUNDARE
WHAT'S IN HIS MIND?
Does this lyric mean anything to him? If it does, how does he ever expect a long prayed for love to be forgotten? Where is the next man capable of rescueing this foolish heart kept captived by a stranger whom they've never met? Has the wrong prayer been said or did God send the wrong man? OCT 8 - SIS' WEDDING |
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