アリシア チンの透かす

1 時間
每人也擁有的，但就不是每人也懂珍惜，有人還為了要打發時間，而故意去做一些沒甚意義的事，當有一天生命快要來到盡頭，你就會知道時間的可貴。
2 健康
正如時間一樣，擁有健康的人，從來不懂得自己已經是如何幸福，很多人天天做的事，其實都正在和健康作對，因為，我們以為健康是理所當然的，因為，我們以為大病、死亡這些事，只會發生在人家身上。
3 一個真正的朋友
對你好的人，不一定真的對你好。
對你壞的人，也不一定真的對你壞。
主要還是看他們的出發點，一個真正的朋友，是一面清楚而沒經美化的鏡子，在他們身上，你可能看見一個不太完美的自己，但都是真的。
4 一個沒有吵架聲和哭聲的家
擁有一個天天吵個不停的家，倒不如沒有家，因為，家是我們最後的防線，最安全的休息地，如果，家變成了戰場，大家天天面容猙獰地呼呼喝喝，我們就會連最後的防線也失守。家，一個快樂的家，有錢也買不到。
5 讀書的機會
過去有好幾十年，我沒有珍惜上學的日子。
驀然回首，那些上學的歲月，老師的教誨，甚至讀書的機會，原來都是那麼的珍貴。
讀書，不一定使你變成有錢人，但一定可以使你變成一個聰明人。
6 一次有激勵性的挫折
皮球，要大力拍打一次，才能反彈得更高，人在順風順水之下，會變得安逸而沒有戰鬥心，只有一次不大不小，不能取你性命，但卻能教導你如何奮發的挫折，才是繼續向上的最大動力。
挫折，不一定帶來負面影響，主要看你如何招架。
7 一個愛自己的人
你去愛人多少，可以由你決定。
人家愛你多少，只可由命運安排。
愛你的人，不一定會出現。出現了，不一定會永遠愛你。永遠愛你，你不一定會珍惜，如果一切都湊合得好，可算是天下瑰寶。
8 自己
我們踏破鐵鞋，去找尋最珍貴的東西，但就從來沒有想過，自己已經是其中一件，愛惜自己、尊重自己、了解自己，為自己建造一個光明的前景，都是人人必須學懂的事。
不愛惜自己，有人會去做援交女郎，不尊重自己，有人會去作奸犯科，不了解自己，有人會渾渾噩噩地過一生。
你只有一個自己，何時才能學懂珍惜？

女人入洞房那天，早早收起了自己的鞋，等男人脫鞋上床 ，女人卻雙腳踩在男人的鞋上。男人見了，嘿嘿笑著說：「想不到妳還挺迷信的。」
女人卻認真地說：「我媽媽說了，踩了男人的鞋，一輩子不受男人的氣。」
男人說：「我媽媽也說了，女人踩了男人的鞋，那是一輩子要跟著男 人吃苦受罪的。」
女人開始試探著管男人，先從生活小事兒開始，支使男人倒垃圾掃地 拖地，男人全了。
女人說種什麼，男人就種什麼。左鄰右舍女人說跟誰走近點 、跟誰走遠點，男人全聽女人的。
男人正跟人閒聊天，女人一聲喊，男人像被牽了鼻子的牛，乖乖就回去了。
男人正跟人喝酒，女人上前只扯一下耳朵，就被拽進家。
有人激男人：「這女人三天不打，她就上房揭瓦。你也算個男人 ，怎能讓女人管得沒有一點男人的氣概？若是我的女人，非扁她兩下不可。」
男人不急不慌地說：「把你的女人叫來，我也捨得扁她兩下。」
那人急了：「你聽不懂我的話！上輩子老和尚托生的沒見過女人！真不像你爸的種，怕老婆！」
村裡有大事商量，男人一出場，人們就說：「這商量大事你也做不了主，還是把你家女人請來吧！」男人還真把女人叫來了。
女人能管住男人覺得很得意，直到有一天女人在男人耳邊說起了婆婆的不是。
男人紅了眼，一聲吼：「想知道我為什麼不打妳嗎？就因為我媽媽。我媽媽一輩子不容易，我爸爸脾性暴躁，稍有不順心，張口就罵、舉手就打，我爸爸打斷過胳膊粗的棍子，打散過椅子。我媽媽為了我們幾個孩子，竟熬了一輩子。每次見媽媽挨打，我都發誓，我娶了女人決不捅她一根手指頭。不是我怕妳，是我忘不了我老媽媽說的話，她說：「女人是被男人疼 的，不是被男人打的。」
女人驚呆了，她沒想到男人的胸懷竟這樣寬廣。
現在男人在外與人喝酒打屁聊天，女人不喊也不再拽耳朵，有時還會端碗水遞給男人。
有人問男人，怎麼調教出來的？
男人卻一本正經地說：「打出來的女人嘴服，疼出來的女人心服。」
男士讀，女士看，讀出的是感悟，看出的是感動，其實樸實的背後是無限的真情！
看完了，你從中領悟到了那個樸實的道理了嗎？

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION 1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e.. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right'. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay attention...

Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones don’t appreciate you?
Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-'esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1.  TRUST
2.  COMMUNICATION
3.  INTIMACY
4.  A SENSE OF HUMOR
5.  SHARING TASKS
6.  DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)
7.  SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8.  GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.  GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10.CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.

第一條：努力賺錢，自己花。 台幣越來越薄，男人越來越不可靠，如果自己有錢，一切都可以好過點。我最近勤於逛新屋、看豪宅，希望有一天能在自己的浴缸裡看山，廚房裡有菲佣燉著雞湯，透明玻璃餐桌上有一盆草莓和一壺expresso，洗完澡後穿上Tsumorichisato的睡袍，看看報紙雜誌，再換上miumiu套裝前進麗晶挑挑新貨。或者是，到畫廊搜搜常玉的畫，再以十倍價差來脫手，找幾個朋友寫寫歌、談談音樂，在我臥房的露台下當然，除了賺錢自己享受外，妖精們切記一件重要的事項：「別讓男人花你的錢。」陶子身邊的智障麻瓜們，常常唉聲氣地訴說在街上巧遇舊情人的苦處，不但怨恨他那麼快又有了新女伴，更氣不過的是：「陶子，他欠我的六萬塊還沒還耶！」這位麻瓜月薪不過三萬元，當初不但供吃住給他的男人，還標會讓他買電玩、衣服最後，人還是跑了。女人，努力賺錢，自己花。

第二條：努力戀愛，努力青春。
怕皮鬆肉垂？妳沒做臉做spa嗎？怕年齡大？你沒聽過姐弟戀嗎？能剋服這二項障礙，妳就成功地向妖精界邁進了一大步了。妖精之所以成妖，就是讓平庸的人類無法從外表判斷其年齡；妳一定看過皮膚乾澀、滿臉痘子的「年輕」女孩，也一定看過白晰光滑、吹彈可破的玉肌「妖精」女子，可見要歲月在妳身上留下痕跡或是智慧，仍然可以自由選擇。青春之後，戀愛機會自然大壞；而戀愛的滋潤，更是青春不老的強力春藥；所以，麻瓜們，請努力栽培自己、培養戰鬥力，如果還不清楚，請在家中掛起林志玲、劉嘉玲、關芝琳和辛曉琪的照片，一日三拜。

第三條：努力清醒，除舊佈新。
不管在事業、家庭或愛情，最忌諱的便是優柔寡斷、夜長夢多；不但問題懸而未決，還成一個阻擋妳前進的大包袱。所以，在開年之時，請給妳自己一個沒人打擾的時間，平心靜氣地思考，那些事該做個整理，甚至了斷，別讓鎖事阻礙了妳前進的動力。這個工作沒有前景，不是你的興趣，不如早早歸去；這個男人曾經傷害妳，食之無味，那就趕快丟棄---沒有什麼男人是會棄之可惜的---只有妳放棄了自己對感情的堅持，那才遺憾。最後，陶子提醒麻瓜們注意的事項是，努力清醒的真諦。妖精能不害人，才是最高境界。努力清醒，不管對方多帥，性能力多強，是別人的老公就不行；例子我就不用再舉，切忌切記，我希望看見許多美麗的妖精。

第四條：捨得自己過生活。
每到晚上七點十分，便得提著垃圾到巷子口等垃圾車來。久而久之，就認識了住附近的一位老婆婆，她年逾古稀，依然目光如炬，健步如飛。老婆婆總是向我抱怨她的媳婦，她常說：「我媳婦老愛把帶孫子的責任丟給我，以為這樣我才不會癡呆。
她怎麼了解，我每天一大清早要到公園裡和二十幾年的姊妹淘唱卡拉OK，然後星期一、三、五要上銀髮族英語會話正音班，二、四早上要上電腦。下午要去我們的長青聯誼社開讀書會，最近我們在讀一些日本漫畫，什麼流星、什麼壽司的，可好玩了！有時候，還得和三五好友喝喝下午茶、看看展覽，趁非假日嘛！老人票很便宜的！晚上我得看八點檔連續劇，然後再看九點檔的鄉土綜藝節目，什麼什麼夜總會的。週末我就更忙了！爬山、泡茶、去公園餵魚、餵流浪狗去寺廟拜拜打禪吃素！
喔，最近我還買了最新款的自動調焦單眼相機，想玩玩攝影呢！」我問老婆婆：「那妳那些可愛的小孫子呢？」老婆婆說：「我已經照顧完我的小孩了，陪孩子長大的機會可只有一次，這機會該屬於孩子的父母，要我偶爾帶帶，兼職可以，全職？我可忙的呢！」我問：「妳捨得？」老婆婆說：「我捨得將我的青春都給了我的孩子，現在，我得捨得走出門，捨得活自己，捨得去發現，原來時代是這樣進步的！」在老婆婆總是快捷俐落的身影裡，原來有顆不老的心！她總說，她得快一點，再快一點！日子每天少一天，不多了。女人真的要多愛自己一點....

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning."

2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"

4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
"Because I said so, that's why."

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."

7. My mother taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS .
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA .
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER .
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"

15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING .
"You are going to get it when you get home!"

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way."

19. My mother taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"

20. My mother taught me HUMOR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT .
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."

22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you.  Do you think you were born in a barn?"

24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."

And my favorite:
25. My mother taught me about JUSTICE .
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you.”

While having popiah & my now regular kopi-o kurang manis alone at kopitiam this morning, a car with the registration no. 1312 passed by. A number which I still don’t get the answer from bro Pat but coincides with Cher’s birth date. He only said this, from the first glimpse of Cher, he knew she’s not ordinary… 1=1 God, 3=Holy Trinity, 12=12 apostles. (I can hear someone saying “BS” now & I know what he means.) Let’s just hope he’s right. What harm has he done??

Instantly I texted & greeted him a “good morning”. After his round of construction site-survey, he dropped by at the showroom & gave Cher (who was still in her Taekwondo uniform) 2 laminated cards of prayers & for me, 1 laminated picture of Mother Mary holding John Paul II in Her arms when he was shot in 1981.

He gave his promise ~ a massage for me when he knew that I always have problems with neckache. I could hear the nerves twitching sound unlocking when his strong hands kneading through both my arms, hands, back, neck & head like I’m a piece of fat meat. Hah!! My hands are still painful after the pressing ~ minor headaches, he said. No migraine, thank God. Amazingly he could feel the lump in my head where I fainted & hit hard on. But the pain isn’t that bad anymore. This was the best massage I ever had in my entire life.

Believe me, for a moment, I felt Holy Spirit has rested on me via him. No awkwardness towards an almost total stranger whom I have known only by chance not long ago. No blushing when he mentioned, “Don’t worry, I won’t touch your breasts!” Thank you, bro Pat.

Sometimes we just can’t explain why we are doing godly things to certain people. ~ This is what I believe, Holy Spirit works through & in us when we are chosen.

Dear readers, Please go to Tun Dr. Mahathir Mohamad’s blog to vote whether you want teaching of Maths & Science in English. Tun is strongly supporting English & is willing to convey your message to the Government. So, please go to http://chedet.co.cc/chedetblog/ & speak your mind. Strike while the iron is hot! Do it today for the sakes of our children! Please pass this message to as many people as possible. Thank you.

I dare to say I believe in God (without second thought) because we are all unique tools to serve God in different ways. If everyone looks alike (do I have to wear like a nun??), thinks alike, speaks alike, behaves alike, has same interests, what would this world become like???

Who are we to judge others on their appearances, the languages they speak, the food they eat, the arts they love, etc.?? We can’t save the world by changing others to be like ourselves. Your ways may not be the best. Why can’t I try different approaches?? He rewards us differently as well. You may be blessed with rounds of world tours, and I’m blessed with a beautiful child. At the end of the day, He loves us all the same.

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When I received these black & white pictures from a friend, I fell in love with them instantly. I wish I could travel back to those days where nudity was the 1st natural thing to be. Since when “men” see it as obscenity & sexual arousal? Didn’t God create us in His image? Are we ashamed in His image? It was the beasts in men who have created women as sex icons. It’s how one perceives nudity.

I can’t believe the Cabinet’s decision to reverse the teaching of Science and Mathematics policy back in BM starting 2012. And I agree that this is another abuse of power by BN. Picture this: our future Malaysian pillars who go on Global Conventions in BM technical & scientific terms with poor command of English, the international language. This foolish decision is on the way of producing “laughing stocks” to the world.

Why are we, Anak Malaysia, so unfortunate to have such leaders?? This is why Malaysia is always way behind our neighbouring country, Singapore. If everyone could afford to migrate, trust me, they would have done so long ago. Then BN could celebrate in the attitude of “We are proud to be Malaysians. This is who we are!! Take it or leave it.” Welcome to Malaysia.

Meet Igor, my sis’ iguana. Babysitting it over the weekend while sis & the rest flew to Miri to attend uncle Louis’ housewarming cum birthday party. Both sis & I love cold blooded creatures. Easy to tend to & they don’t make noise. Hah! Unfortunately Cher doesn’t dare to touch & hold any creatures, be them hot or cold blooded. The sight of a cockroach or a lizard is enough to make her scream & hop around. Haiz!

Yesterday as I was about to pay off after eating Shanghainese Dimsum buffet breakfast with Cher after attending morning church service, I realised my purse was left in another handbag. Panicked. This was the 2nd embarrassing encounter in my life. The 1st time was lucky as I know these vendors well. Now!! Who could I think of to come & “rescue” us from washing dishes for the Shanghainese lady boss? I thought of bro Pat because at that moment we have just communicated through texting. But no lah, I don’t feel nice to impose on him after all I have not really known him for long.  So I called aunt Grace to try my luck. Thank God, she came shortly to our rescue. Phew!

I don’t know why… but it certainly seemed like a very long weekend for me. Still feeling tired & lazy.

God bless, my name is Tjong Khim Long/ Tjuk Lin Tse -- alias Yusuf.? Tjuk Lin Tse is the name I use in my profession. I was born in North Kalimantan but have settled down in Jakarta for 21 years as a Chinese physician. I am also a member of the Indonesian Chinese Physicians' Association. Besides being a Chinese physician, I am also a fortune teller, I started my practice at a fee of Rp. 500 for each patient. The latest fee before my repentance in 1988 was Rp. 150,000 per patient for half an hour's consultation. I had so many patients that they have to wait for their turn for 2 to 3 months, and sometimes even up to 4 months to have their fortune told.

1. Method of Fortune

After a patient has registered and the turn came for his fortune to be told, he will come into the room. The moment he walked in, I knew the problem he faced that caused him to look for me - whether it was about work, family or others. I also knew what sickness he was suffering from and if he needed medical surgery and how many times he had undergone surgery. What's more, I knew everything about his children, whether they are widows or widowers, etc. That was not my power.. I learned the method of fortune telling from the knowledge descended from my ancestors. I did not learn it from books. Since I was young I was trained by praying, fasting and reciting charms.

When a patient approaches me to have his fortune told, it was the spirit that is in him that told the spirit that was with me. Even my student who has not passed could be accompanied by a spirit that would tell him everything. Because it was the spirit in the patient that told the spirit that was with me, which enabled me to read my patient's mind, that was why I was confident that I could tell fortunes accurately. So then how did a person from such a background as me believe in Jesus when I totally could not believe in Jesus?

At that time, Jesus, to me, was not of the same race as me, so how could He bring me to heaven? It was even impossible for me to dream about it. To me, the Bible was written by men, it is not something that dropped down from the sky. But now I believe in Jesus, maybe more than some Christians do. I did not become a Christian through a Christian.? Even if there was someone who handed me 100 million Rupiah to become a Christian, I would not want to be a Christian, I would reject that offer. I became a believer through a long process from God Himself.

2. How did I believe in Jesus?

1st February 1988 was the when I started to believe in Jesus. Every human being possesses love and it was through love that I got to know Jesus. The love that I am relating is the love between husband and wife. On 23 March 1987 my wife passed away due to an illness that caused her to lose her appetite for food. Although I was a physician, I had never given her any prescriptions.

Instead I brought her to other famous physicians for prescriptions. There was a room in my house which was like a temple. For 21 years, the idols that I worshipped could move and during the course of my wife's illness, I worshipped those idols. But there were no results. All my other efforts to cure my wife did not have any results too.? At last my wife was sent to the hospital, but the doctor could not figure out what my wife was suffering from? The general check-up showed that my wife was healthy, there was no illness.? At that time my wife could only eat 2 spoonfuls of food. She would throw up if given another spoonful. After facing a dead end, my wife told me that she decided to

receive Jesus Christ and believe in Him. Although I did not believe in Jesus at all, I permitted my wife to go ahead because of my love for her. When my wife believed in Jesus, she was prayed upon by my son and daughter who at that time already were believers of Jesus.

After being prayed upon, my wife slept soundly that night. When she woke up the next day, she looked so radiant and since then she could sleep peacefully every night. What happened in return made me unable to sleep. How did that happen?

Imagine, my wife had believed in Jesus, but my house was still full of idols. According to my prediction, my wife would return home from the hospital in 8 to 10 days and the situation at home would undoubtedly be a problem for her. As Christ's believer my wife would say "Halleluiah and Praise God", while I still had to say words of my idol worship.

This difference would undoubtedly result in an uncomfortable atmosphere.

3. Idols in my house destroyed

Immediately I gathered my students for a meeting, but they could not come up with a suggestion for a way out. Due to the love for my wife, I destroyed every kind of idols in my house, including the one from Ming Dynasty that could move.

The doctor found out that my wife was suffering from cancer of the intestines 6 hours before the passing away of my wife. We thought that it was only hemorrhoids. When my wife passed away, I was still an unbeliever. Since my wife already received Christ, her funeral service was carried out in a Christian manner.

There was a service in my house every night and I had to pray after them in the name of Jesus. I also heard about Jesus and how He gives life and heaven to those who believes in Him. I wanted to know where my wife was; in heaven or in hell. According to the Christians and pastors, my wife is in Heaven, but how could they proof that to me? No one has ever been to heaven and returned to tell me that my wife is in heaven.

4. Attending the church seminar in South Korea

In August 1987, there was a church seminar for Asians. My family of 7 registered for the seminar. I attended the events but not the services. Many churches in Asia sent their representatives there. I went there just to learn about Jesus.

I have 4 children, 1 son and 3 daughters. My eldest daughter was totally deaf. She could not hear at all, not even the sound of burning firecrackers. I brought her along to Korea anyway. We went to the Mount of Prayer, where people go there in throngs. At that time, a total of 163 Indonesian went there, including my family. There were caves in which we could I pray. I was interested to know about those caves. I queued up but my turn never came. I met a church elder from Taiwan. I saw him pray in the name of Jesus for healing without any charms or medicines. There was a person whose arms were not of the same length, after being prayed for in the name of Jesus, his shorter arm grew outward and became the same length with the other!

I was also an ex-acrobat and magician, but what I saw was not magic. Then I asked that church elder to heal my eldest daughter. He told me that he has no power to heal, but he only relies on the power of Jesus. I was given the opportunity to witness God's power. The church elder placed his two fingers in my eldest daughter's ears and prayed.

He said that in the name of Jesus this child must be able to hear and say 'Amen'. After he finished praying, he snapped his fingers behind my eldest daughter, she could now hear.

That incident really touched my heart because for 31 years my eldest daughter could not hear a single sound. Now she could hear just through a prayer. That church elder taught my daughter to say "Halleluiah" and she was able to follow after him although not fully accurate. At that moment I felt like country fellow who for the first time came to the city. I felt the magnificence of God.

5. I began to feel the awesome power of God

On the way back to Indonesia, we stopped by Taiwan and Hong Kong.  Usually each time I was in Singapore or Taiwan, I did not have the chance to go anywhere since many people would come to me to have their fortune told. But no one knew about my stop over in Taiwan then, so I had the chance to go to a place of recreation called Wu Lay.

When I came back from Wu Lay, my foot began to swell to a size bigger than my shoes could fit. But due to my scheduled flight, I had to fly to Hong Kong with my foot which condition was getting even worse. I thought that if it worsened even more, I would have to carry my shoes to Indonesia . So I asked my daughters to pray for me. After they prayed in the name of Jesus, I did not see any results. They prayed a second time, still there was no change. So I left it at that and went to sleep.? The next day when I woke up, my foot was healed! Filled with joy, I went back to Indonesia with my shoes on. At that time, I still did not want to believe in God, and I continued my profession as a fortune teller. At that time, I was also suffering from diabetes and chronic high blood pressure.. In that situation, I wanted to know how great God's power is. I did not take any medicines, instead I asked my children to pray for me. After being prayed for, I went to the doctor for a check-up. The doctor asked me where I went to seek medical attention for the past month. He was amazed at the result of my check-up. I told him I did not seek any medical attention at all. He did not believe that without any medication my illness could be healed. My diabetes and chronic high blood pressure were back to normal. Back then it was difficult for my blood pressure to reach 150, but now it reaches between 135 - 85. What had happened assured me that there is great power behind prayers. I had to confess the splendor of God, but I was still unable to bring myself to fully accept Him. The problem laid with my profession as a fortune teller which enabled me to earn a lot of money easily. At that time I could earn about 500 to 600 thousand Rupiahs per day without any capital. If I were to accept Christ, I would have to leave my profession and I would not have any earnings. I was at a pinch, such that I chose to remain a fortune teller.

One thing that was very unusual, there were also many Christians who wanted their fortunes told. I got to know that because I bought 100 Bibles from Korea and I gave one to each of my patients. Some of them said that they already have a Bible, which could mean they are Christians and they believe in Jesus. When I asked them if Jesus still helped them, they said that Jesus used to help, but not anymore. I advised them that there must be something wrong and I suggested that they seek God earnestly. I told them that God is willing to help even someone who did not believe in Him, He helped me! At that time my fortune-telling became more popular, and many Christians was curious because there was a fortune teller who gave out Bibles. They said that in this world, the only fortune teller who would give out bibles is me!

6. My repentance

To end my testimony, on 1st February 1988 at 1 o'clock past midnight, I repented with all my heart. That day I went to look at 2 projects for Feng Shui. The last one was at Pondok Indah, a very broad land with many buildings. It was raining cats and dogs when I reached there, such that it was hard for me to get out from my car. I brought with me my compass but the compass needle would not point accurately from inside the car. So I had to go out from my car with an umbrella to look at the place. When I reached home, it was already close to 8 o'clock at night. I went to bed right after dinner because I wasn't feeling well. At midnight I was awaken with breathing difficulties. As a physician I knew that was a heart problem. The air that I exhaled seemed more than the air that I inhaled. I couldn't stand it anymore, and I knew that in 5 to 10 minutes, I would die. At that moment, I remembered the power of prayer, and I knelt down on my bed, praying to God that He would bring me through that critical moment so that I could see tomorrow.  After "Amen", there was no result, and my breathing grew more difficult. Again I knelt down and prayed to God. After a second "Amen", there was still no result.. I felt so uneasy and according to my prediction, I still had 2 minutes left. That short time would determine whether I would still live or die. In that situation, it was already impossible for me to return to worshipping idols because I have destroyed all of them, such that the only way then was to pray for healing. I promised that if I was healed, I wanted to believe in Jesus, obey Him, be His witness, serve Him and leave my old profession.

At that very moment, I believed that Jesus was right there in front of me. As usual I ended my prayer with "Amen", but amazingly, just as I was saying "A", before I could even say "Men", I was already breathing normally and fully healed. My body felt so fresh. It was as though I was young again, and I felt deep joy that I have never felt before for the whole of my 61 years I have lived in this world!

It was at that moment that I put my trust in Jesus. I am a man who holds on to my promises, and that was also why I fulfilled my promise that I made to Jesus.

On the 1st of April 1988, I announced that I no longer practice fortune-telling and Feng Shui although there were still many people who wanted to have their fortune told, including people form Singapore, Taiwan and Malaysia. God loves men, but it's a pity not many men wants to love Him. I felt very indebted to God who loves me so much and my desire is to repay His love.

I call out to you to get to know Jesus, believe in Him and receive him whole-heartedly. Trust in Him 100%, not 99%, and you will be saved, healed and restored in this world and also in heaven.

May this testimony of mine increase the faith of all believers and to tell the pre-believers that Jesus is not an idol which we can make, pick and choose but He is the God for men to put their trust in and to worship.

John 3:16 : For God so loved the world, that he gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life".

John 14:6 : Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

Hebrews 2: 3-4 : How shall we escape, if we neglect so great salvation; which at the first began to be spoken by the Lord, and was confirmed unto us by them that heard him; God also bearing them witness, both with signs and wonders, and with diverse miracles, and gifts of the Holy Ghost, according to his own will?

Hebrews 4:7b : "To day if ye will hear his voice, harden not your hearts.."

Acts 4:12 : Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.

John 1:12 : But as many as received him, to them gave the power to become the sons of? God, even to them that believe on his name.

We can do no great things, only small things with the great love of God.

Belief #1: SHE’LL NEVER BE SATISFIED.

Truth: Women are always looking for ways to make things better. Don’t take her suggestions as complaints or criticisms, but as her desire to make the relationship or situation the best that it can be.

Belief #2: A STRONG, CONFIDENT WOMAN DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER.

Truth: Everyone loves to be taken care of and to feel needed. Even if a woman can fix things around the house or change the oil in her car, she will still ask for your help so she can feel your strength, support and protection. Don’t ever stop asking, “What can I do for you?” because it shows her that you care.

Belief #3: WOMEN ONLY WANT TO CONTROL MEN.

Truth: It’s not about control; it’s about love. When a woman sees a man hurting, struggling or overwhelmed, her goal is to help, not control.
Let her give you a helping hand.

Belief #4: KEEPING A WOMAN REQUIRES A LOT OF HARD WORK, TIME AND MONEY.

Truth: A serious relationship requires time and effort to cultivate it. You shouldn’t look at it as a burden. Your wife or girlfriend will reciprocate the effort you put into it.

Belief #5: YOU CAN’T LIE TO WOMEN.

Truth: Women are extremely capable of picking up moods and attitudes and can easily read body language and facial expressions. Although you may think that you have gotten away with a great lie, she is either letting it slide because she wants to keep the peace, or she is lying to herself because she’s afraid of the truth.

Belief #6: JEALOUSY AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE A PART OF BEING A WOMAN.

Truth: Women are protective of what belongs to them. They protect the things they value, especially when it comes to relationships. It’s not that she doesn’t trust you; she is guarding the relationship. You are too precious to her for her to allow anything bad to happen.

Belief #7: WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL.

Truth: Women don’t hide their feelings. They articulate what’s going on in their minds. There’s nothing wrong with emotions—we all have them. Being in touch with their emotions causes women to be sensitive and caring, and that’s why men love them.

Since office’s wifi’s no long available, I use my self-paid broadband at work. But since Ron, my associate colleague, came in to share office with me ~ boss’ cutting cost on rentals, I let her use my office PC (even though she has a laptop but no internet access) and broadband whenever she reports to work on Mon, Wed & Fri. Tremendous pay-cut for her but she seems to be comfortable with it. Now left only two of us. Not sure who’s going to leave next or should I say last??

At home, since “his” disappearance, I also become lazy to go online. Feeling like something is missing in my life. I know what it is but I keep myself busy with online dramas. At least they keep me occupied & sleep well.

Most importantly, I know “he’s” somewhere out there living happily. Love is not possessive ~ I have my dignity as well. I can’t be so cheap to keep telling a man how I feel for him….

Que sera, sera… No question asked, this is the trust he demands. I trusted a man once & all I received was a  broken heart. So, I don’t want to know how exactly he’s doing now since he has no interest to inform me. I don’t want to know. Sometimes the truth hurts. So I don’t want to know. No, thank you.

So friends who have been wondering of my whereabouts, I’m still breathing ya…. Not so much of kicking around though, very tired, physically, mentally & emotionally….. Missing my bed now…. (Yeah, it’s the AV period again…. Haiz!)

An email from a friend:

我有個朋友A，月入只有$30,000，可是他過的生活是五星級的生活。
他不在乎每個月多繳一堆利息給銀行作為循環利息，也要「分期付款」把他喜歡的名牌和食物到手。
每個月到月底他就苦哈哈，這個時候，身上沒有任何現金的他，花不起一點錢吃路邊攤，可是可以用信用卡到餐廳消費吃更高級的料理。
我們常常笑他是「貧窮貴公子」。
不久之後他買汽車了，在各方親友的勸阻之下，仍然沒有辦法阻止他以$100,000的頭起款買下標緻206。
買車的第一個月是很快樂的，他開著他的跑車到處去飆，日子過得好不快活。一直到有一天晚上，我打電話給他，發現他竟然睡在汽車裡面。
「發生什麼事情了？」我緊張兮兮地揶揄他：「是不是債務人堵在你家門口，你不敢回家呀？」
「不是。」他哀怨地對我說：「是因為太晚回家了，沒有車位可以停。只好睡到車上來。」
不久之後他要搬家，整整打包了三個晚上才把他的東西收完。
兩台中型卡車載完他的家當。搬家的那幾天他心力交瘁，因為每一樣東西都很貴重，禁不起一點點不小心撞擊。
他終於崩潰。他說：「這些東西我 一個月摸不到三次，卻要為它們這麼 作牛作馬 ，唉！」
而且，這些東西的錢還沒有完全付完，每一個月，都被銀行追討利息。
當他看著身邊的好朋友… 一個一個在年假當中都要收拾行李出國去玩了，而他正要面臨卡爆的危機，困在這個小小的島嶼上，忍不住悲從中來。
他承認，他失去了自由。
我發現擁有一個東西是一體兩面，如你我擁有一個東西、享受他，同時你也是受到他的支配、他的擁有。
這個東西讓你付出的代價是時間、精神、金錢，如果他對於你沒有提供相對的價值和利益，那麼就是浪費，浪費你的時間、金錢和精神。
從我的朋友擁有一部汽車開始，他就陷入了被汽車擁有的生活。
原本他可以騎著機車上班，停在人行道或者任何不用付錢的地方，靈活地在這個城市到處遊走。他也可以搭乘大眾交通工具，幾拾元可以戴著他到他想去的任何地方，拍拍屁股下車，沒有煩惱。可是擁有了一部汽車之後，雖然免去了身體奔波之苦，可是卻要開始面對為車奔波之苦。
他的約會開始遲到，出門常常找不到車位，回家也沒有自己的停車位可以停，生活老是在為車位煩惱。
而且幾個月之後他告訴我他已經很少開車出門，原因是，油價花費太高，負擔不起。他說他失去了自由。
我們總是在追求更高、更好的享受，所有的科技物質發展也朝著人類這樣的需求進行。 但是，沒有一個人可以這樣全面地擁有所有物質享受。
我曾經試過，在一天疲累的上班族生活下來，其實你最需要的，是一碗麵、一台電視機，一個人。
你沒有多餘的時間去把玩你手上的那麼多東西。
在假日，最幸福的是和家人或者朋友吃一頓飯，然後回家休息。
說要出遠門要籌畫很久。
而且，衣櫃裡面那些美麗的衣服和鞋櫃裡的新鞋子，你總是找不到適當的時機去穿。
現代人擁有太多用不到、也享受不到的東西，卻還是要拚命地滿足心理沒有完全的那個夢。
擁有一個東西，你其實就失去兩個自由。
一個是被物質綑綁的自由，一個是面臨被金錢支配的自由。
這世界沒有僥倖，人總要為年輕的錯誤付出代價。原來，節儉的目的是自由。

This really is shocking news to me early this morning. I just couldn’t believe what I’ve heard over the radio. But the true fact is: even a King of Pop dies! Another death at young age ~ 50 years old is young!! I don’t care how he looks like, black or surgically white. He’s truly talented. I love his songs & videos, apart from all his past hysterical sexual & child abuse behaviour.

I was hoping to watch his video clips of his live concerts at The O2 Arena, Greenwich, London starting next month, so THIS IS IT????

At 5.30am this morning, I looked up at the dark cloudy sky from balcony, feeling the earth moving under my feet. I prayed. Cold breeze was blowing on my face….. love it! Suddenly my cellphone chirped. I was hoping it was from “him” but instead it was from Pat, our client cum bro in Christ. A mixed feeling of disappointment & appreciation.

When “he” asked me how would I endure on “his” disappearance? I was thinking…. maybe this was “his” courteous way of saying goodbye forever?? “He” said I don’t care where he is, I do, but I’m more hurt when he didn’t even knock at my door even when he was just outside? Remember Matthew 7:7??

Well, no one likes to make false assumption but seriously I don’t earn any benefit of doubts from “him”. I believe “he’s” in the good hands of God or someone. I don’t want a body without a soul. I don’t need “his” physical presence if I can’t win “his” affection.

As long as “he’s” happy with “his” life, my life means nothing to “him”, why would I allow myself to be fooled again? Don’t be silly! I won’t bang my head on the wall again…

A 2nd cousin of mine passed away today by the age of 35 years old. Not sure of what fatal illness it was because we were only informed of the Chinese medical term, some kind of virus which has to do with blood & lungs. Doctor believes he might have contracted it from outside food. He travelled often due to his job. He didn’t want to believe his aggravating condition & rejected to undergo any treatment. Is this being selfish or clever not to waste $ on medical expenses & hospitalization? If I knew I’ve contracted a “terminal” illness & didn’t have any insurance coverage, I would not want to waste those $ as well.

He left behind his mother who dotes on him the most among other siblings because he was the most filial to her, his wife & 2 young daughters….

I hope he has bought MRTA for their house under his name & some personal insurance coverage for his family. It wasn’t because I have been a part-time insurance agent before but I believe this is a token of love ~ a financial security for our loved ones.

May his soul rest in peace. Amen.

This scene has been in my mind since  I was in Singapore more than 14 years ago. My first impression was: Gosh! How could this parent treat the kid like an animal? After my kindergarten teaching experience in Singapore, I began to realise that it’s love to leash your kid in public so that you won’t lose her/him. Especially when all means of educating the kid not to wander off have failed.

Of course I have never used a leash on Cher even though she was a wanderer too when she was a toddler! There was once when we brought her for shopping at Malacca Mahkota Parade Shopping Mall, she was trotting about curiously & freely… so cute in her diaper & tweet tweet shoes. Then I told her dad, “let’s hide ourselves!”

We stood in a corner keeping our eyes on her, she turned around & couldn’t see us. There in the crowd, she stood still. No crying. A Malay lady walked over & checked on her but didn’t do much. She didn’t make a fuss. After a while, we went over to her & cuddled her & kissed her. I warned her not to wander off again, otherwise she would never see us anymore. Since then, she sticks to me like a leech in public areas!

I came across this poem on the newspaper yesterday so I asked Cher to text it to her dad:

Took a day off today, 20 June 2009, from work to attend this Pap Smear Screening Awareness Talk organized by The Laila Taib Cancer Charitable Trust & Normah Medical Specialist Centre at Normah. Invited mom & sis-in-law to come along. Unfortunately, sis is away for travelling.

It has been years since I last did my PS screening when Cher was still a toddler. Without procrastination, I grabbed this opportune free PS talk & screening when I read it in the newspaper. This was the 5th talk by them so far & I believe their response should be improving as more Asian women are becoming more open-minded in such screening & health conscious. We were greeted by the friendly staff & some pre-packed refreshments & water upon arrival at the auditorium. Each attendant gets a free PS screening voucher which is valid for 6 months, free BP & pulse rate check-up service(thank God my readings were normal, but mom starts to worry about her high BP reading) & a complimentary one session of Venus Tummy Trim voucher(of course one laser treatment will not show any result! Hah!) which is valid for 3 months. The multi-racial audience were also quite active during the Q&A session.

Right after the PS talk, an American doctor came by to promote his Thermage treatment to bring youthfulness back to aging women. Interesting but………. the cost is a bomb! Sigh….. I can only afford to learn to age gracefully!

Since we were there, I went to the blood bank to check if I’m fit enough to donate blood….. This is also one way to check if my hemoglobin level is normal. Aiks! What a shame, a “healthy” looking person like me is not fit enough to donate blood!! If only I could donate fat…….. hahaha…….

When Dan asked me this afternoon if I had told anyone of his whereabouts, I lied. I’ve learnt this surviving skill ~ “buat bodoh” (acting innocent) from him & Fred. So much to learn from men ~ to tackle them is to think like them, be like them!

After months of chasing, one of our KL supplier’s representative, Karen, has finally managed to recover from Dan’s long overdue owing to them. Unfortunately, Mr & Mrs Teng, our agitated clients, were not as lucky as her. They didn’t get hold of him.

I’m not sure if he believes me but I do not feel guilty at all for lying to him. I suggested to Fred earlier to confront him personally but he refused. Not sure what his actual reasons are but the urge was just too great for me not to do “anything” when I’m the one being “threatened” as the legal boss! What a shame! Hate this name ~ towkay nio! 老扳娘? Yucks! It’s really no fun being a boss! Pressured! Sigh…

It has been a long while since we last saw Auguste Kwan De Hui 關德輝 in the limelight, now he plays the character of Mr Siao, the Mandarin teacher in "Mr Siao's Mandarin Class" on NTV7 at 9pm every Wednesday, from the 15th of April. Glad to see him back on the screen!